But I still have nothing left for him, emotionally. Not anymore. I guess what I really need is an extra helping of grace so that I can extend some grace to him and get through this to whatever might help him.
That's a tough place to be. I hope they find a magic pill that will stop him from having psychotic delusions. But mostly I wish he wasn't such a constant source of stress in your life.
The thing is, it's not like he was a warm loving thoughtful kind father his whole life who changed with dementia. He's always been pretty shitty.
It seems clear he needs to be in some sort of assisted living situation because this can't keep falling to you and your brother.
I’m so sorry, Tep
And sarameg. But grateful for your insights.
I wish I could see more things.
I hope you get the chance to do so soon. I know it’s complex, though.
Sorry Steph. That sort of thing is hard enough when you have a well of good history and feelings to draw on. Much grace~ma to you.
Is it Laura Day??? Yay, Laura Day!
May you enjoy a fabulous, sunny, beachy day with some delicious food and wonderful company. And cake. Happy Birthday!
Thank you! I am super excited about being 70. Seriously! I'm about to go across the street with SIL and DH and have a mimosa on the beach.
{{Buffistas dealing with parent issues}} Parenting your parents sucks for all concerned.
I am super excited about being 70. Seriously! I'm about to go across the street with SIL and DH and have a mimosa on the beach.
That's exactly the kind of thing I was hoping for!
Happy Birthday, Laura! Enjoy that mimosa!
One thing I read about dealing with parents with dementia - it's not like children who you're trying to teach good behavior or ethical treatment or something like that. Sometimes it's just best to lie to them. It's not like they're going to learn.
I must say, it goes against the grain but there it is.
