Happy Birthday Laura!
Hauser: You really think you can solve the problem? Come into Wolfram & Hart and make everything right? Turn night into glorious day? You pathetic little fairy. Angel: I'm not little.
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Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.
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Matt the Bruins fan - Feb 22, 2024 6:49:12 am PST #28807 of 30000
"You should never say bad things about the dead, only good… Joan Crawford is dead. Good.” —Bette Davis
Laura - Feb 22, 2024 7:45:13 am PST #28808 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
I had two mimosas!
brenda m - Feb 22, 2024 7:56:46 am PST #28809 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Yay for birthday mimosas!
Laura - Feb 22, 2024 8:02:53 am PST #28810 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Of course, now I need a nap.
shrift - Feb 22, 2024 8:17:23 am PST #28811 of 30000
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
Happy birthday, Laura! Two mimosas on the beach and a nap sound amazing.
meara - Feb 22, 2024 8:24:00 am PST #28812 of 30000
Yay birthday mimosas! I had Oj with some sparkling water in it, which is….minosa-esque? (It is not my birthday)
shrift - Feb 22, 2024 8:36:03 am PST #28813 of 30000
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
I guess what I really need is an extra helping of grace so that I can extend some grace to him and get through this to whatever might help him.
Maybe we can scrape together some grace and push it through the intertubes for you. But also: jesus fucking christ.
Shrift, barging in with the past 2.5 wk experience with stubborn ass independent parents
sarameg, wow that sucks so hard. I very much appreciate your advice. I've bookmarked your post and will be taking down notes to share with my siblings
Also, if you want a pulse/blood oximeter monitor
Thank you! I don't know if the one my mom got him buzzes at a certain threshold, but it also syncs to an app and the results from last night were pretty dire. I'll ask if the monitor has any functionality like the one your brother found while we keep trying to get him into a sleep study as soon as possible.
Amy - Feb 22, 2024 9:30:08 am PST #28814 of 30000
Because books.
Happy birthday, Laura!
Feeling so much for shrift, and sarameg, and Teppy. I think no matter how old or together you are, caring for aging parents is just an emotional wallop. And so much harder in practical terms when your relationship with that parent was not great.
Laura - Feb 22, 2024 9:52:48 am PST #28815 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
What Amy said. It adds a whole other level of complexity to be a decent human and take care of a parent who was not a decent human.
Calli - Feb 22, 2024 10:09:41 am PST #28816 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Happy birthday, Laura! Beach mimosas and a nap sound great.
My friend’s mom had Alzheimer’s, and honestly, she ended up lying a lot. Her mom would ask where her husband—my friend’s dad—was, and he’d died years ago. Instead of saying as much, and triggering a fresh round of grief each time, she’d ask, “Where do you think he might be?” And her mom would respond with something like, “He’s out fixing the car”, and my friend would just say, “Sounds likely,” and redirect the conversation. Apparently this is a technique signed off on by dementia professionals. If a lie is kinder or makes things easier, lie your ass off.