Well, there's that, which I guess I have done. But I think she is still trying to shape me in ways that are beside the point now.(Or maybe she just believes I do a lot more than I do white sitting here typing. Maybe I wish.)

There was also the fact that for just about all of my life, my mother made sure people saw me HER way.

maybe every mom does that, a little. (my grandma had a Problem in this department...not trying to say it's quite the same.) if my grandma had been kinder, or lighter or something, maybe it could've have been appealing or Using Her Life As Art the way that she was, like, "Begone, unpleasant reality, You have no shelter here," but people counted on her, sometimes. Also, when your grandma's life's a fairy tale, who wants to be troll? Right? (I edited. Sorry.)

Some guy online is arguing that his academic research proves women don't like oral sex. (A few of my friends have told me it's not a fave...literally, different...let's say strokes.) But I suppose I rubbed it in(and I don't mean porn) by saying that just because I've read a lot of whodunits it doesn't mean I could kill him and get away with it.

his academic research proves women don't like oral sex.

Maybe he's just really really bad at it and unwilling to accept some instruction.

I'm thinking this.

So his academic research was really just incomplete: "women don't like oral sex...FROM ME."

definitely a possibility...definitely he must be the last of the red-hot lovers to take his own history of, like. "That's okay...I've got a lot to do tomorrow," or whatever, plus whatever real research he may have done and make a statement about millions of people. Without considering that even those of us trying to live without shame have learned more about looking hot and/ or worrying about what's normal than what we really love. but at least he didn't report me for my quip about whodunits.

Years ago, I saw a video of a man receiving oral sex from a woman and then from a man, to see who did a better job. He reported that the woman was better, which was nice to hear, but from that small a sample size, I wouldn't generalize. Sounds like this guy didn't have a sample size that was more representative.

It would seem not. Can you imagine posting that? And that thinking your credentials make a better point? I can't, even though I share a lot.