Ugh. I have a crush on a good friend and she's started dating someone new and is all twitterpated and I've been dealing ok with that when it's just her (because she's happy and I want her to be happy) but when they're together I'm just horribly jealous.

A couple months ago (before this started) friend planned a weekend getaway for her birthday to a place with a cabin, hot tub, lake, etc. Shes now invited girlfriend. I don't want to be with them all weekend but I don't feel like I can bail now. Aaaaaargh.

Also, last week I was at dancing and they were both there and I was trying to kind of avoid (by which I mean not stand directly next to them while they cuddle and make out) and my friend was like "why are you ignoring me? What's wrong? Did I do something?" Ugh.

Ugh, that's hard, meara.

I think you can bail if you need to.

Yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with bailing in that situation.

meara, bail. You don't need to put yourself through that. There's no reason to voluntarily put yourself in a situation that will hurt you.

I'm waiting for a bus. On my way to the bus stop a random person saw me with my loaded backpack and shopping case and asked if I needed a ride.i didn't but sometimes strangers can be the nicest people.

If you can bail then do that. Take care of yourself.

I agree completely on bailing. Last moment, can't do it, migraine. Or friend emergency, I'll be an alibi. I was distraught, you got caught up on the phone with me. Don't like those, we can give you dozens more outs.

Yeah, I may go with migraine--all our good friends will be there. And it sucks extra because it sounds like lots of fun--a cabin, a lake, a hot tub...but...

It is only fun if it is fun for you. I'm sorry this is so hard.

Also, as an aside, when I first read the post my eyes saw msbelle instead of meara, and I wondered how I missed that msbelle was into women, then re-read. Well, I was amused.