What's wrong with asexual men? And there are AVEN message boards--I spent a lot of time reading the aromantic threads for a while. Before I realised that if I am, I'm not like most of the talky ones there.
I have close relationships with men without having sex with them fairly often. I mean, I'm all about the not having sex, although it's not deliberate in the least. It must be my smile.
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I think anyone who does not understand what you mean probably should not be giving advice to you, because it adds to your stress,without helping
Typo, if you want to tell me to shut up, tell me to shut up.
And Zen, if I'm raising your stress level without providing any value, please also tell me to shut up.
I'm good with that.
What's wrong with asexual men?
There's nothing wrong with asexual men. But they're not helpful in the "trying for the fun sex" department.
And Zen, if I'm raising your stress level without providing any value, please also tell me to shut up.
You're not. You're getting me to think through some things that I've been shying away from thinking about, because it's a scary subject.
Zen, if it makes ya feel any better, you are a great kisser! IJS.
:: whistles innocently ::
There's nothing wrong with asexual men. But they're not helpful in the "trying for the fun sex" department.
So, the issue of sex is fraught for you right now, and because of that right now you don't want to deal with the potential of having sex, or being with someone who might be assuming that sex is in the future (whether short- or long-term future), but you don't want to take the possibility of sex off the table, because, damn it, people like it, and *you're* a person, so why in the HELL can't YOU get in on that yay!sex action, too?
If I'm in the ballpark with that description, OHAI. My issues, let me show you them.
Zen, if it makes ya feel any better, you are a great kisser! IJS.
Aw, thanks! So are you, ya know.
If I'm in the ballpark with that description
Yep, that's pretty much the ballpark.
because of that right now you don't want to deal with the potential of having sex
but "right now" has turned into 13 years, and I know if I don't make some effort to, to do *something*, I'll likely spend the rest of my life in this self-imposed isolation.
I have nothing, really, to add to the discussion because I've a) never really dated, much and 2) been in a relationship for yonks and don't think my experiences would help, much.
Instead, I bring you shallow fashion business! What do we think of this dress:
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I think it's lovely, Aims. I like the seaming on the bodice.
