I think she means just that they are there in hopes that it will ultimately lead to a relationship that includes sex, not necessarily casual or on the first date, though I'm sure that is out there too.
Question: Will hiding in a cavern with stockpiled chocolate goods be any part of this plan?
Xander ,'Get It Done'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Typo Boy - Aug 17, 2012 12:36:54 pm PDT #18907 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
Cass - Aug 17, 2012 12:50:10 pm PDT #18908 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Dating isn't sex. If you are on a dating site, you should be open to dating. You don't have to necessarily date anyone or have sex with anyone you meet there. But being open to dating seems like the reason you'd be on a dating site.
Some men on dating sites probably are looking for sex. Some women really probably are too. Sex is often, though not always, a part of dating and a part of relationships.
But going in with preconceived notions on any side just seems like you are setting yourself up for failure and then bitterness because you knew that it was going to be that way even from the start. Why bother?
Vague disclaimers and all: I mean, I'm not on a dating site right now. Because I don't think I am ready to actively look for someone to date. I know this. So I am not on a dating site.
Zenkitty - Aug 17, 2012 1:06:57 pm PDT #18909 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
My original response was actually because I thought Zen meant that guys were on dating sites for sex, as in casual hook-up sex upon meeting.
I don't mean that. Some guys are, sure, but some girls are too. I mean what Typo said
just that they are there in hopes that it will ultimately lead to a relationship that includes sex, not necessarily casual or on the first date,
The expectation is there, and I feel anxious about how to manage it. I'm not even entirely sure what I *want*, which doesn't help.
Dating isn't sex.
This has not been my experience. I don't mean to say that dating is only about sex, but sex or the expectation of sex is part of dating. I know there are couples who date without sex, meaning to save themselves for marriage, but someone like that wouldn't be dating me.
§ ita § - Aug 17, 2012 1:27:49 pm PDT #18910 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
It's perfectly possible you could meet someone with asexual expectations on a dating website, but if you're on a dating website looking for guys who don't want to date, things might be rocky.
OKCupid has a friendship option, doesn't it? Does Geek2Geek?
Zenkitty - Aug 17, 2012 1:34:07 pm PDT #18911 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
It's perfectly possible you could meet someone with asexual expectations on a dating website, but if you're on a dating website looking for guys who don't want to date, things might be rocky.
I'm not looking for someone who doesn't want to date. Did I even say that? I'm not even looking for a guy who doesn't want to have sex. I'm looking for a companion, and I'm trying to deal with my anxiety and my issues regarding something I consider to be a part of dating.
My original post was just asking for some help writing my response to a guy whose profile I liked.
Zenkitty - Aug 17, 2012 1:34:46 pm PDT #18912 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
OKCupid has a friendship option, doesn't it? Does Geek2Geek?
Doesn't look like it.
Polter-Cow - Aug 17, 2012 1:37:29 pm PDT #18913 of 30001
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
My original post was just asking for some help writing my response to a guy whose profile I liked.
I agree with Burrell that the phrase "Neutral Zone" may carry connotations you don't intend. Meeting for a "chat and a beverage" sounds pretty neutral as it is (it's not DINNER, thank God), and it certainly doesn't sound like "Sex me up!" Unless he has a very different interpretation of "chat" and "beverage." Send it, and best of luck!
Zenkitty - Aug 17, 2012 1:44:54 pm PDT #18914 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
I got rid of Neutral Zone and sent it. aaiighhh
omnis_audis - Aug 17, 2012 1:45:14 pm PDT #18915 of 30001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
Unless his name is Romeo, and you are Juliet, then a nuetral zone may be required. Just don't drink the poison in the tomb!!!
omnis_audis - Aug 17, 2012 1:47:36 pm PDT #18916 of 30001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
ION- It's American Ballet Theater week here at work. And the kids have finished 3 weeks of sleep away camp, learning all sorts of dance stuff, and putting on shows for their parents. There are about 6 boys. And I have determined, they need to wear a wig with a bun. Dunno why. I just think it'd be funny.
(yes, I am a bit bored, as is the nature of running sound for an event that just requires hitting the GO button. But that means things are going well, so, can't complain)