It's perfectly possible you could meet someone with asexual expectations on a dating website, but if you're on a dating website looking for guys who don't want to date, things might be rocky.
I'm not looking for someone who doesn't want to date. Did I even say that? I'm not even looking for a guy who doesn't want to have sex. I'm looking for a companion, and I'm trying to deal with my anxiety and my issues regarding something I consider to be a part of dating.
My original post was just asking for some help writing my response to a guy whose profile I liked.
My original post was just asking for some help writing my response to a guy whose profile I liked.
I agree with Burrell that the phrase "Neutral Zone" may carry connotations you don't intend. Meeting for a "chat and a beverage" sounds pretty neutral as it is (it's not DINNER, thank God), and it certainly doesn't sound like "Sex me up!" Unless he has a very different interpretation of "chat" and "beverage." Send it, and best of luck!
I got rid of Neutral Zone and sent it. aaiighhh
Unless his name is Romeo, and you are Juliet, then a nuetral zone may be required. Just don't drink the poison in the tomb!!!
ION- It's American Ballet Theater week here at work. And the kids have finished 3 weeks of sleep away camp, learning all sorts of dance stuff, and putting on shows for their parents. There are about 6 boys. And I have determined, they need to wear a wig with a bun. Dunno why. I just think it'd be funny.
(yes, I am a bit bored, as is the nature of running sound for an event that just requires hitting the GO button. But that means things are going well, so, can't complain)
I'm not looking for someone who doesn't want to date
I was misled by your pointing out of this:
You were just the other day unhappy because you went to a dating thing and met a girl who might like to be friends but didn't seem to want to date you.
If you're looking to date someone and not be just friends then just put that you don't want to have sex in your profile.
If you're looking to date someone and not be just friends then just put that you don't want to have sex in your profile.
That doesn't make any sense to me.
What doesn't make sense?
You're looking to date, right?
You seem to not want to have sex, right?
You have a profile, right?
So say, in your profile, that you're not looking for sex.
Did I misunderstand you that entirely?
Did I misunderstand you that entirely?
Kind of, yeah. To me, dating involves having sex. Saying "I want to date but I don't want to screw, no how, no way" right up front defeats the whole purpose, I might as well not even try to find a companion, on a dating site or wherever. If you're not having sex, and there's no chance you're going to, then you're not dating, you're friends. And friends is great, but eventually the one who does want to have sex will find someone to have sex with, and then you lose your friend to their new partner's jealousy. Maybe I'm cynical and have a bad attitude, but that's how it is.
I know there are asexual/celibate men out there. But since they aren't wearing labels, I don't know how to find them.
And again, I'm not even sure that's what I want. I keep hearing how much fun sex is supposed to be; I'd like to try that "fun sex" with someone. Which means me getting over my issues, which means actually approaching a human male at some point without a metaphorical sword between us. Which scares me to the point that I am actually in tears right now, believe it or not. So maybe I shouldn't have sent that damn message just now, because I am clearly not ready to leave my damn house.
