OKCupid has a friendship option, doesn't it? Does Geek2Geek?
Doesn't look like it.
Honestly, you meet the most appalling sort of people....
Giles ,'Chosen'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
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Zenkitty - Aug 17, 2012 1:34:46 pm PDT #18912 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Polter-Cow - Aug 17, 2012 1:37:29 pm PDT #18913 of 30001
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
My original post was just asking for some help writing my response to a guy whose profile I liked.
I agree with Burrell that the phrase "Neutral Zone" may carry connotations you don't intend. Meeting for a "chat and a beverage" sounds pretty neutral as it is (it's not DINNER, thank God), and it certainly doesn't sound like "Sex me up!" Unless he has a very different interpretation of "chat" and "beverage." Send it, and best of luck!
Zenkitty - Aug 17, 2012 1:44:54 pm PDT #18914 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
I got rid of Neutral Zone and sent it. aaiighhh
omnis_audis - Aug 17, 2012 1:45:14 pm PDT #18915 of 30001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
Unless his name is Romeo, and you are Juliet, then a nuetral zone may be required. Just don't drink the poison in the tomb!!!
omnis_audis - Aug 17, 2012 1:47:36 pm PDT #18916 of 30001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
ION- It's American Ballet Theater week here at work. And the kids have finished 3 weeks of sleep away camp, learning all sorts of dance stuff, and putting on shows for their parents. There are about 6 boys. And I have determined, they need to wear a wig with a bun. Dunno why. I just think it'd be funny.
(yes, I am a bit bored, as is the nature of running sound for an event that just requires hitting the GO button. But that means things are going well, so, can't complain)
§ ita § - Aug 17, 2012 1:47:40 pm PDT #18917 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I'm not looking for someone who doesn't want to date
I was misled by your pointing out of this:
You were just the other day unhappy because you went to a dating thing and met a girl who might like to be friends but didn't seem to want to date you.
If you're looking to date someone and not be just friends then just put that you don't want to have sex in your profile.
Zenkitty - Aug 17, 2012 1:54:32 pm PDT #18918 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
If you're looking to date someone and not be just friends then just put that you don't want to have sex in your profile.
That doesn't make any sense to me.
§ ita § - Aug 17, 2012 1:59:47 pm PDT #18919 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
What doesn't make sense?
You're looking to date, right?
You seem to not want to have sex, right?
You have a profile, right?
So say, in your profile, that you're not looking for sex.
Did I misunderstand you that entirely?
Zenkitty - Aug 17, 2012 2:15:11 pm PDT #18920 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Did I misunderstand you that entirely?
Kind of, yeah. To me, dating involves having sex. Saying "I want to date but I don't want to screw, no how, no way" right up front defeats the whole purpose, I might as well not even try to find a companion, on a dating site or wherever. If you're not having sex, and there's no chance you're going to, then you're not dating, you're friends. And friends is great, but eventually the one who does want to have sex will find someone to have sex with, and then you lose your friend to their new partner's jealousy. Maybe I'm cynical and have a bad attitude, but that's how it is.
I know there are asexual/celibate men out there. But since they aren't wearing labels, I don't know how to find them.
And again, I'm not even sure that's what I want. I keep hearing how much fun sex is supposed to be; I'd like to try that "fun sex" with someone. Which means me getting over my issues, which means actually approaching a human male at some point without a metaphorical sword between us. Which scares me to the point that I am actually in tears right now, believe it or not. So maybe I shouldn't have sent that damn message just now, because I am clearly not ready to leave my damn house.
§ ita § - Aug 17, 2012 2:20:14 pm PDT #18921 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
If you're not having sex, and there's no chance you're going to, then you're not dating
Well, since I have a fundamental lack of understanding of this, I can't help. Never mind. Sorry I made you cry, I had no idea this was this fraught.
But since they aren't wearing labels, I don't know how to find them.
They're in the asexual web communities, like AVEN, but I can't work out if you're saying you're situationally or inherently asexual or anything at all, but it's clear I should not press it. I just wanted to throw that link out there before I signed off.
You never have to have sex, ever. Anyone who insists you have to trade it for intimacy or companionship is an asshole whose penis you shouldn't touch anyway. That's not going to be where the fun sex lives!
(Also, if the first point I quoted is true, and you are just friends, then you don't lose them to a partner. If it's not true, then you're not just friends--you are dating.)