In truth, I look at the kind of rejection you experienced as a favor.
I do, definitely. I didn't mean to be all mopey, it just made me a little sad remembering.
You don't have to hang out. A polite "No thanks." is still friendly and civil. Well perhaps not friendly, but at least not unkind.
I did do this, but originally didn't have it in me to be final about it at the time. So, we'll see how it goes. Having some perspective definitely helps.
I just sent my husband a sexy love note!
Teeheeheeheehee! So cute. We love love!
Holy shit. I got into that tutoring seminar.
Ha! I would probably lean toward not taking it, personally. But that is definitely all about me and how I handle stuff.
(or something less southern)
No! Southernisms are the best. If you can't say something nice or profound make up a confusing metaphor!- as my grandmother used to say.
"While I can't force you to be the person I wish you were, I absolutely have the right to recognize that you aren't what I need and therefore will end the relationship."
What Vortex said. I may just C&P that shit straight up!
(I didn't mean "shit" in a perjorative sense, btw, just being sorta slangy. It's really an excellent way of putting things.)
Anyone have any comments on the e-mail?
t /needy
Oh, who the hell am I kidding?! That tag never closes!
I like the email, too, vw. The only suggestion I have is that you put some kind of time frame on it -- "my schedule is fairly flexible for the next few weeks, but I'd really like to speak with you before (date) so I can think about this commitment." Or somesuch.
I didn't fall asleep in my meeting, but it was close.
Oh, that's good. Thanks, guys!
(I didn't mean "shit" in a perjorative sense, btw, just being sorta slangy. It's really an excellent way of putting things.)
Oh, no I didn't think you did. I used to feel like I owed it to someone to be his or her friend or girlfriend and would get really frustrated when they wouldn't behave according to whatever model of correct friend/boyfriend behavior I had in my head. Then I was told I couldn't make anyone behave that way, which made sense, but left me with several more years of frustration over whether or not my models of behavior were wrong and maybe I should just accept others for who they are and then something happened that made me go "Sure. I can't demand that you don't knowingly hurt me, but I have the right to want someone who won't."
