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Spike's Bitches 34: They're All Slime and Antlers  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


erikaj - Mar 08, 2007 3:13:52 pm PST #9696 of 10001
Always Anti-fascist!

I've had viruses like that.


-t - Mar 08, 2007 3:18:40 pm PST #9697 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

That's close to an hour of dizziness, with lying down? I'd call.

Well, actually, I wouldn't, I'd ignore it and hope it went away, because that's what I've always done with unexplained dizziness but I think you should call, vw. For one thing, you have a pretty good chance of getting an explanation.


Topic!Cindy - Mar 08, 2007 3:21:15 pm PST #9698 of 10001
What is even happening?

vw, are you drinking fluids? Could you be anxious? Dizziness/anxiety work together on me, often.


vw bug - Mar 08, 2007 3:23:22 pm PST #9699 of 10001
Mostly lurking...

vw, are you drinking fluids?

Yeah. I've had about 7 glasses of water and four cups of (decaf) coffee and tea at lunch.

Could you be anxious? Dizziness/anxiety work together on me, often.

I guess I could be, but I had a really good day, so I don't think so. I don't know. I'd just go to bed, but I need to take my nighttime meds, and the new med is in there.


Steph L. - Mar 08, 2007 3:37:14 pm PST #9700 of 10001
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

Okay, so now there's MORE in the saga of Steph Resigns From The VOLUNTEER Position.

I told all y'all that Asshead!President e-mailed back, and said pretty much what I expected him to.

However, the chairman of my committee -- who is an even bigger FUCKO than Asshead!President -- hadn't e-mailed back as of this afternoon.

Yeah, well, he did.

Oh, my god. I seriously can't believe some of the stuff he said to me. He basically called me a liar, and explicitly called me juvenile and irrational.

No, seriously.

And when he sent that e-mail to me, he cc-ed the Board on it, so they got to see all the insults he threw my way. So, even though I had said I wasn't going to reply to any e-mails, that was before I got this massively hostile, insulting one. I wanted to reply so that the Board could see my response, and that I wasn't going to just take his shit lying down.

I have to share his letter with y'all, though I won't post all of it, because it's really tl;dr. So here are some juicy highlights.

This is how he opened the letter, swear to God:

"Steph,

"I have read your resignation numerous times and I have to say that your reasons are phony."

The very first sentence he tells me I'm full of shit. How do you like THAT?

"We were all asked to, or volunteered for all the jobs in relationship to PEER that we agreed to. And to up and quit when a person doesn't get their way is not only pusillanimous but juvenile."

While I'm impressed that he used the word "pusillanimous" (assuming he thought it means what it does), I didn't quit because I "didn't get my way." But you all know that.

And apparently I'm juvenile.

"to think because you're a professional that your idea and way is the best and only way is at the least brash, if not crossing the line of irrational."

Now, that's just crazy talk, because I have *never* said that I think my way is the best and/or only way, and I certainly don't think that because I'm a communications professional that means I get to say what goes.

And I'm irrational.

"Even though you state otherwise I believe that your newsletter format not being accepted brought about if not the main reason for your sudden inspiration to resign from PR is significant."

Although that's a totally incoherent sentence (yeah, I over-edit; riiiight), he's basically saying that despite what I said, he DOESN'T BELIEVE ME. He's calling me a liar. And he's implying that he somehow knows the "real" reason I resigned.

"you need to take responsibility for your own actions and accusing others to make your reason seem legit is fabricated. To me this really reflects your personal character to myself and the board who has been supportive of you."

Again, it's a bit incoherent, but right there he's saying I made up my stated reasons for resigning -- IOW, I lied, and that reflects my personal character. That is, my personal character is that I am a LIAR.

Perhaps you all can understand that I am ready to commit physical violence against this piece of shit fucktard.

"This group has been held hostage too many times in the past and I will not let anyone get by with this type of behavior on my watch."

I don't really understand what he means here. What "type of behavior"? Resigning a volunteer position? Is he saying that no one is allowed to resign? That's not exactly the definition of "volunteering."

So I did, in fact, reply, and I called him out on every bit of his bullshit hostility and insults.

These are some of my replies:

"You called my reasons 'phony.' [Name], they are MY reasons. You do not have the ability to read my mind and judge the truth of anything I say.

"It is patently insulting to insinuate that you know my 'true' motives for resigning. I am a truthful person, and my true motives for resigning are exactly as stated in my original letter."

(continued...)


Steph L. - Mar 08, 2007 3:37:21 pm PST #9701 of 10001
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

( continues...)

"Calling me 'juvenile' and 'irrational' is really sinking to the level of name-calling. That's completely uncalled for. Not once have I engaged in the same manner of name-calling."

"You said 'Even though you state otherwise I believe that your newsletter format not being accepted brought about if not the main reason for your sudden inspiration to resign from PR is significant.' So, you're saying that even though I clearly stated one reason, you think another is true? That sounds like you think I'm lying. And THAT is insulting and uncalled for."

"You said, 'you need to take responsibility for your own actions and accusing others to make your reason seem legit is fabricated. To me this really reflects your personal character to myself and the board who has been supportive of you.' This sounds like you are accusing me of lying. Fabrication = lying. You are saying that my personal character is that I am a liar. You are way off base. That is untrue, and uncalled for, and simply unacceptable."

"[Name], your attitude towards me is hostile, and insulting, and you make completely untrue accusations about me, to the point of insinuating that I am a liar. Not once have I EVER made baseless, untrue accusations about your personal character.

"Shame on you."

So, I sent that off, and made sure the Board was cc-ed. If they *don't* think that his behavior is deplorable, they truly have become a group I don't want to be a part of.

The Boy, bless his heart, offered to beat up Committee Chairman for me, and then he said he was going to call Asshead!President and tell him that if Committee Chairman doesn't get removed from the committee for such behavior, then he (The Boy) is leaving the group.

And I love him for that, but I also worried that this would happen -- that because of bullshit surrounding something *I* did, *he* would be negatively impacted.

However, I am *still* so happy I resigned; in fact, I'm even more happy, now that I've seen Committee Chairman's true (psychotic) colors. There is NO FUCKING WAY in hell I would ever work with him again. Not knowing what he truly thinks of me.

(This is better than a telenovella, isn't it?)


billytea - Mar 08, 2007 3:39:49 pm PST #9702 of 10001
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.

Do a couple nights at the Aunt's Hotel and then go some place swanky and fun. Or just go some place swanky and fun. Honeymoons are in short supply unless you're Elizabeth Taylor.

Meh. We can sort it out, I just don't know what her aunt was thinking. Don't they know I'm a capitalistic white devil?


libkitty - Mar 08, 2007 3:45:06 pm PST #9703 of 10001
Embrace the idea that we are the leaders we've been looking for. Grace Lee Boggs

You know, Teppy, there's a lot in this letter that is unprofessional, rude, and completely uncalled for. That said, the thing that boggles me the most is that it's not perfectly acceptable for you to resign for whatever reason you want. It's a volunteer position. Do they really expect you to keep going in the position until the end of time?!

In short, you are well rid of these people.


Steph L. - Mar 08, 2007 3:51:41 pm PST #9704 of 10001
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

That said, the thing that boggles me the most is that it's not perfectly acceptable for you to resign for whatever reason you want. It's a volunteer position.

Right???

In case anyone missed it, these people are CRAZEEEEEEEEEEE.

I really want to believe that the Board will see Chairman's nasty letter and smack him down, but given the way things have been going, I'm actually expecting to be told that I "misunderstood" the e-mail.

Though it doesn't really matter, because I'm freeeeeeeee!


Jessica - Mar 08, 2007 3:51:44 pm PST #9705 of 10001
If I want to become a cloud of bats, does each bat need a separate vaccination?

Tep, is there some kind of bad writing kink I don't know about? Because, dude, these emails aren't just insulting, they're fucking incompetent.