Thanks for the tip about Office Depot, tiggy. There's a shiny new one very close to me, and I've been considering getting a laptop, so maybe it's a Sign.
Stop means no. And no means no. So . . . stop.
Xander ,'Conversations with Dead People'
Spike's Bitches 34: They're All Slime and Antlers
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Zenkitty - Jan 15, 2007 4:58:24 pm PST #934 of 10001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
tiggy - Jan 15, 2007 5:00:49 pm PST #935 of 10001
I do believe in killing the messenger, you know why? Because it sends a message. ~ Damon Salvatore
Thanks for the tip about Office Depot, tiggy.
you're welcome! the HP that i wanted was out of stock, but they told me they will be getting trucks wed, thurs and sat. so i'm going to try back then because it has everything i want at a price tag of $699. really can't beat that. if they don't get it in, i'm going to work my powers of persuasion for them to sell me the display model and knock some more off the price.
Emily - Jan 15, 2007 5:23:04 pm PST #936 of 10001
"In the equation E = mc⬧, c⬧ is a pretty big honking number." - Scola
It is annoying because it treats husband as animal and it comes off very manipulative.
Yeah, but she does tell him. So that's something. In a similar vein, AcrossTheHall!Teacher lent me a book called the Dog Trainer's Guide to Parenting, which is surprisingly helpful. Stuff about "training" your SO does sound manipulative, but heck, I can sympathize with the wanting some adjustments to happen (mind you, in my case I'd be the one with clothes on the floor, so...). Of course, with the key thing I think what happened was less that she trained him into doing anything differently and more that she stopped "helping" in ways that were making things worse. So that's more training herself, really.
In other words, Gris, I feel you. It is the hate. I'm 75% certain I won't be returning to this school next year, so I'm tempted to be all "take your multiple observations and do something else with them," but I'll still need my evaluation when I go on to the next school, so must buckle down and "probe more deeply for student understanding," despite the very real likelihood that continuing to question one student for longer than 30 seconds will lead to the rest of them turning their notetaking guides into paper airplanes and entering an indepth discussion of... er, I'm not sure, as it's in Spanish. Something not related to math, I'll tell you that.
Pardon the ramble. I'm meant to be doing planning right now, but my toe hurts.
DavidS - Jan 15, 2007 5:24:05 pm PST #937 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
David, I wish that I could express how completely perfect, and perfectly timed that article is for me.
You're welcome, Beej. It seemed apt for both your work and where you had been recently.
The tenor of the article didn't bug me. I often think it's better to step back from difficult dynamics and think of them in terms of strategies. It will often yield a new angle on things, and take you out of your own contribution to the problem.
DavidS - Jan 15, 2007 5:26:20 pm PST #938 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
but my toe hurts.
What'd you do to your toe?
Btw, Emily do you want to make a TJ's run sometime this soon? Which is to say, I'm offering to drive you there and back.
SuziQ - Jan 15, 2007 5:27:29 pm PST #939 of 10001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
Emily - alternatively, there is a TJ's right by my house....
Emily - Jan 15, 2007 5:33:00 pm PST #940 of 10001
"In the equation E = mc⬧, c⬧ is a pretty big honking number." - Scola
What'd you do to your toe?
Dropped upon it a can of soup. Which I was considering eating, but now I'm not so sure. Damn soup.
Sure! I think. Yeah!
DavidS - Jan 15, 2007 5:40:45 pm PST #941 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Which I was considering eating, but now I'm not so sure.
Oh you should totally eat it to establish your dominance over the pantry.
beekaytee - Jan 15, 2007 5:44:18 pm PST #942 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant
Stuff about "training" your SO does sound manipulative, but heck, I can sympathize with the wanting some adjustments to happen (mind you, in my case I'd be the one with clothes on the floor, so...)
I often think it's better to step back from difficult dynamics and think of them in terms of strategies. It will often yield a new angle on things, and take you out of your own contribution to the problem.
Both of these statements are very it for me.
Quite apart from being manipulative, I think it is simply fair to focus on what actually works, and to be clear about what you want. We train people how to treat us every day. That seems to be fact. We behave in certain ways because they are habitual. Stepping back and thinking in terms of strategies is, frankly, the most loving thing I can think of.
eta: I should mention that I'm a teeny bit tipsy and on my way to bed...the foregoing is a statement I stand by...or rather...will be sleeping by...in the very near future.
beth b - Jan 15, 2007 6:03:20 pm PST #943 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
I think, to be honest, that there was only a line or two that struck me as slightly 'different species' in her tone. And praiseing the positive, when you have a good relationship with someone - is good. Everyone likes to be appreciated. ( and the big difference - with people you can say things like I"ll be less cranky if I don't trip over your shoes. You just can't explain to the cat that choseing the only carpeted area to barf on is really annoying)
Matt wants to know if Emily is the Soup Dominatrix.