deborah grabien:
You wouldn't know it by me; I was taught to say precisely what I thought and I always do. My father's take on it was "they're going to try and sit on your because you're a girl, so tell them to piss off and say it loud and say it very clearly, so that there's no possibility of misunderstanding later." So I do, and sometimes I get in trouble, but the nice thing about being raised to be this confident? I stand by what I say, unless I say something really stupid and someone shows me why and how it's stupid. Then I say "wow, I'm a moron, dude, I missed that one entirely."
But I don't do passive aggressive. Generally? Almost completely aggressive. As are most of the women in my family.