Gris, I'm just chiming in here with everyone else to say you rock. The fact that you're concerned and caring and wanting to make sex a good experience for her says so much. Some of it is always going to be up to her, because learning her own body is a personal thing, but letting her know that you're patient and you're willing to help is huge. Really.

So sorry about CJ, MG. Wish I had advice. My fourteen-year-old still has impulse control issues, although they don't involve hitting (thank god, because at this point that probably warrant a call to the police since he's nearly six feet tall).

~Ma to all who need it. Especially Anne's poor tummy.

Gris, I'd share some of the Buffista posts here

I shall. Though I may just send her the text as "something I found on the internet" rather than be like "I was totally talking about you on the internets and this is what they said k?"

I do get the pressure thing Vortex, but it's rather a fine line. If I try not to try, then I risk actually, you know, not trying.

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[Never mind. Really bad buyer feedback.]

I do get the pressure thing Vortex, but it's rather a fine line. If I try not to try, then I risk actually, you know, not trying.

I know, and it's so great that you want to try. or not try. or something :) Just something to keep in mind. I have every confidence that you'll handle it well, but i'm trying to avoid a situation like I had, where I burst into tears and apologized for 30 minutes, and he was very confused. Poor boy. I should google him.

I do get the pressure thing Vortex, but it's rather a fine line. If I try not to try, then I risk actually, you know, not trying.

I think that if you present it as a "let's help you explore your body and how it reacts" with a focus that's about pleasure and company and consicously away from I Order You To Come! then it will be fine.

Not that you were ordering her to come, it was just funny to write.

"You! Get to work on that orgasm. I thought I ordered you to come fifteen minutes ago!"

::harried looking girl looks up with anxious look on her face::

Poor boy. I should google him.

Diet Pepsi... on... my... monitor. Don't know why.

I think that if you present it as a "let's help you explore your body and how it reacts" with a focus that's about pleasure and company and consicously away from I Order You To Come! then it will be fine.

It wasn't about ordering at all, just that I am a giver when it comes to sex, and it upset me that I couldn't give him what he wanted, which was for me to experience this wonderful thing.

Bad buyer feedback where? The seller has over 95% approval.

Damn, that's a hot dress. I do not have a leather dress. And I realise I may also not have leather pants anymore. Should be redressed.

We know that you're trying to be there for her, but back in the day, I still felt pressure even when my partner was doing handstands and swinging from trees to make it happen for me. I felt like I was disappointing him because he wanted so badly for me to have this.

Yeah, it takes a fair amount of effort for me to have an orgasm, and so on the hell-freezes-over occasions that I do have sex, I'm always massively apologetic, in a pre-emptive way, b/c I don't want the guy to feel like a loser for not making me burst into song like Madeleine Kahn in Young Frankenstein.

"You! Get to work on that orgasm. I thought I ordered you to come fifteen minutes ago!"

Though that works for *some* people.... (Not that I'm implying that Gershwin Girl is such a person.)

Yes, ita, but a lot of the 5% have to do with "item never shipped", "item not as pictured", and one even says the item arrived ripped.