I do get the pressure thing Vortex, but it's rather a fine line. If I try not to try, then I risk actually, you know, not trying.

I know, and it's so great that you want to try. or not try. or something :) Just something to keep in mind. I have every confidence that you'll handle it well, but i'm trying to avoid a situation like I had, where I burst into tears and apologized for 30 minutes, and he was very confused. Poor boy. I should google him.

I do get the pressure thing Vortex, but it's rather a fine line. If I try not to try, then I risk actually, you know, not trying.

I think that if you present it as a "let's help you explore your body and how it reacts" with a focus that's about pleasure and company and consicously away from I Order You To Come! then it will be fine.

Not that you were ordering her to come, it was just funny to write.

"You! Get to work on that orgasm. I thought I ordered you to come fifteen minutes ago!"

::harried looking girl looks up with anxious look on her face::

Poor boy. I should google him.

Diet Pepsi... on... my... monitor. Don't know why.

I think that if you present it as a "let's help you explore your body and how it reacts" with a focus that's about pleasure and company and consicously away from I Order You To Come! then it will be fine.

It wasn't about ordering at all, just that I am a giver when it comes to sex, and it upset me that I couldn't give him what he wanted, which was for me to experience this wonderful thing.

Bad buyer feedback where? The seller has over 95% approval.

Damn, that's a hot dress. I do not have a leather dress. And I realise I may also not have leather pants anymore. Should be redressed.

We know that you're trying to be there for her, but back in the day, I still felt pressure even when my partner was doing handstands and swinging from trees to make it happen for me. I felt like I was disappointing him because he wanted so badly for me to have this.

Yeah, it takes a fair amount of effort for me to have an orgasm, and so on the hell-freezes-over occasions that I do have sex, I'm always massively apologetic, in a pre-emptive way, b/c I don't want the guy to feel like a loser for not making me burst into song like Madeleine Kahn in Young Frankenstein.

"You! Get to work on that orgasm. I thought I ordered you to come fifteen minutes ago!"

Though that works for *some* people.... (Not that I'm implying that Gershwin Girl is such a person.)

Yes, ita, but a lot of the 5% have to do with "item never shipped", "item not as pictured", and one even says the item arrived ripped.

I'd almost take the risk for those odds.

Gris, try echoing, and make it a game: You do something you like to be done to yourself to her, and she does it to you back. And vice versa. Make sure you explore non-erogenous (well, traditionally erog zones) too, like the armpit (seriously, some women really respond to this), the sides of the torso, the back of the knee. Try light fingers, nails, circlular motions. You might learn something about yourself, too.

Or do bondage-less bondage: YOU lay there and are not allowed to touch her unless she gives specific permission. But she can touch you wherever...only caveat is that she has to touch you how and where she likes to be touched.

Also, if she is way tense, try a couple of drinks. Too much booze imhibits orgasm, but a couple of drinks (or smoking a joint, if you/she is so inclined) can really help to lessen tensness.

Be silly: buy some of those dice that offer a deed and a body part, i.e., "lick" and "arm" or "kiss" and "breast"

That's all I got for now.

JZ and I are taking Juliana to Dark Sparkle tonight.

The line to be jealous starts to the left.