We know that you're trying to be there for her, but back in the day, I still felt pressure even when my partner was doing handstands and swinging from trees to make it happen for me. I felt like I was disappointing him because he wanted so badly for me to have this.
Yeah, it takes a fair amount of effort for me to have an orgasm, and so on the hell-freezes-over occasions that I do have sex, I'm always massively apologetic, in a pre-emptive way, b/c I don't want the guy to feel like a loser for not making me burst into song like Madeleine Kahn in Young Frankenstein.
"You! Get to work on that orgasm. I thought I ordered you to come fifteen minutes ago!"
Though that works for *some* people.... (Not that I'm implying that Gershwin Girl is such a person.)
Yes, ita, but a lot of the 5% have to do with "item never shipped", "item not as pictured", and one even says the item arrived ripped.
I'd almost take the risk for those odds.
Gris, try echoing, and make it a game: You do something you like to be done to yourself to her, and she does it to you back. And vice versa. Make sure you explore non-erogenous (well, traditionally erog zones) too, like the armpit (seriously, some women really respond to this), the sides of the torso, the back of the knee. Try light fingers, nails, circlular motions. You might learn something about yourself, too.
Or do bondage-less bondage: YOU lay there and are not allowed to touch her unless she gives specific permission. But she can touch you wherever...only caveat is that she has to touch you how and where she likes to be touched.
Also, if she is way tense, try a couple of drinks. Too much booze imhibits orgasm, but a couple of drinks (or smoking a joint, if you/she is so inclined) can really help to lessen tensness.
Be silly: buy some of those dice that offer a deed and a body part, i.e., "lick" and "arm" or "kiss" and "breast"
That's all I got for now.
JZ and I are taking Juliana to Dark Sparkle tonight.
The line to be jealous starts to the left.
Jilli, did you see about this Tokyo Dark Castle event they did in SF last March?
What could be more gothic then a waltz? In San Francisco there is a huge cross over from the goth scene to the waltz scene. Therefore we felt it a moral imperative to create a place where you can waltz to goth music.
What if you don't know how to Waltz? For you we have Persephone a gothic creature herself, and one of the Bay Area's most sought after dance instructors. She will gladly educate you in the ways of couple dancing.
"You! Get to work on that orgasm. I thought I ordered you to come fifteen minutes ago!"
"Drop and give me twenty" is gonna be a whole new experience.
"Drop and give me twenty" is gonna be a whole new experience.
BWAH!
Yay! Dark Sparkle and Hec & JZ and gothy-type people and whee!
Now I just have to get rid of this hangover. I really need a job, so I have a better excuse to not do shots. Oy.
Yay! Dark Sparkle and Hec & JZ and gothy-type people and whee!
I really need to run down to the nursing cafeteria and grab a cup of coffee, so that I'm alert enough to properly enjoy the evening.
ION, I just used the camera on my new camera cell phone to take a picture of the cast-iron Dr. Zoidberg standing guard next to the scanner. His portrait is now the phone's screensaver. He is the woobiest woobie I've ever woobed.
Just for variety, I'll probably also take pictures of his companions in scanner guardianship, a Nightmare Before Christmas vampire and a windup leaping monkey from Teppy.
t /camera cell phone likes carrots
t /so does Zoidberg
