Poor boy. I should google him.

Diet Pepsi... on... my... monitor. Don't know why.

I think that if you present it as a "let's help you explore your body and how it reacts" with a focus that's about pleasure and company and consicously away from I Order You To Come! then it will be fine.

It wasn't about ordering at all, just that I am a giver when it comes to sex, and it upset me that I couldn't give him what he wanted, which was for me to experience this wonderful thing.

Bad buyer feedback where? The seller has over 95% approval.

Damn, that's a hot dress. I do not have a leather dress. And I realise I may also not have leather pants anymore. Should be redressed.

We know that you're trying to be there for her, but back in the day, I still felt pressure even when my partner was doing handstands and swinging from trees to make it happen for me. I felt like I was disappointing him because he wanted so badly for me to have this.

Yeah, it takes a fair amount of effort for me to have an orgasm, and so on the hell-freezes-over occasions that I do have sex, I'm always massively apologetic, in a pre-emptive way, b/c I don't want the guy to feel like a loser for not making me burst into song like Madeleine Kahn in Young Frankenstein.

"You! Get to work on that orgasm. I thought I ordered you to come fifteen minutes ago!"

Though that works for *some* people.... (Not that I'm implying that Gershwin Girl is such a person.)

Yes, ita, but a lot of the 5% have to do with "item never shipped", "item not as pictured", and one even says the item arrived ripped.

I'd almost take the risk for those odds.

Gris, try echoing, and make it a game: You do something you like to be done to yourself to her, and she does it to you back. And vice versa. Make sure you explore non-erogenous (well, traditionally erog zones) too, like the armpit (seriously, some women really respond to this), the sides of the torso, the back of the knee. Try light fingers, nails, circlular motions. You might learn something about yourself, too.

Or do bondage-less bondage: YOU lay there and are not allowed to touch her unless she gives specific permission. But she can touch you wherever...only caveat is that she has to touch you how and where she likes to be touched.

Also, if she is way tense, try a couple of drinks. Too much booze imhibits orgasm, but a couple of drinks (or smoking a joint, if you/she is so inclined) can really help to lessen tensness.

Be silly: buy some of those dice that offer a deed and a body part, i.e., "lick" and "arm" or "kiss" and "breast"

That's all I got for now.

JZ and I are taking Juliana to Dark Sparkle tonight.

The line to be jealous starts to the left.

Jilli, did you see about this Tokyo Dark Castle event they did in SF last March?

What could be more gothic then a waltz? In San Francisco there is a huge cross over from the goth scene to the waltz scene. Therefore we felt it a moral imperative to create a place where you can waltz to goth music.

What if you don't know how to Waltz? For you we have Persephone a gothic creature herself, and one of the Bay Area's most sought after dance instructors. She will gladly educate you in the ways of couple dancing.

"You! Get to work on that orgasm. I thought I ordered you to come fifteen minutes ago!"

"Drop and give me twenty" is gonna be a whole new experience.