Gris, I'd share some of the Buffista posts here (if you don't think that would flip her out). I really think she's probably similar to JZ and her experience.

I do think talking to her, trying to remove any internal pressure she might have for orgasm, is a really good idea.

this is an excellent idea. I enjoyed sex much more once I learned to let go of the expectation. I still didn't have orgasms, but I enjoyed sex more. and then, one day . . .

One caution, Gris. We know that you're trying to be there for her, but back in the day, I still felt pressure even when my partner was doing handstands and swinging from trees to make it happen for me. I felt like I was disappointing him because he wanted so badly for me to have this. It's like when your best friend tells you about the "funniest movie in the world", and you finally watch it with them, and it's not that funny, but you feel obligated to laugh a little because they love it so much.

Gris, I'm just chiming in here with everyone else to say you rock. The fact that you're concerned and caring and wanting to make sex a good experience for her says so much. Some of it is always going to be up to her, because learning her own body is a personal thing, but letting her know that you're patient and you're willing to help is huge. Really.

So sorry about CJ, MG. Wish I had advice. My fourteen-year-old still has impulse control issues, although they don't involve hitting (thank god, because at this point that probably warrant a call to the police since he's nearly six feet tall).

~Ma to all who need it. Especially Anne's poor tummy.

Gris, I'd share some of the Buffista posts here

I shall. Though I may just send her the text as "something I found on the internet" rather than be like "I was totally talking about you on the internets and this is what they said k?"

I do get the pressure thing Vortex, but it's rather a fine line. If I try not to try, then I risk actually, you know, not trying.

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[Never mind. Really bad buyer feedback.]

I do get the pressure thing Vortex, but it's rather a fine line. If I try not to try, then I risk actually, you know, not trying.

I know, and it's so great that you want to try. or not try. or something :) Just something to keep in mind. I have every confidence that you'll handle it well, but i'm trying to avoid a situation like I had, where I burst into tears and apologized for 30 minutes, and he was very confused. Poor boy. I should google him.

I do get the pressure thing Vortex, but it's rather a fine line. If I try not to try, then I risk actually, you know, not trying.

I think that if you present it as a "let's help you explore your body and how it reacts" with a focus that's about pleasure and company and consicously away from I Order You To Come! then it will be fine.

Not that you were ordering her to come, it was just funny to write.

"You! Get to work on that orgasm. I thought I ordered you to come fifteen minutes ago!"

::harried looking girl looks up with anxious look on her face::

Poor boy. I should google him.

Diet Pepsi... on... my... monitor. Don't know why.

I think that if you present it as a "let's help you explore your body and how it reacts" with a focus that's about pleasure and company and consicously away from I Order You To Come! then it will be fine.

It wasn't about ordering at all, just that I am a giver when it comes to sex, and it upset me that I couldn't give him what he wanted, which was for me to experience this wonderful thing.

Bad buyer feedback where? The seller has over 95% approval.

Damn, that's a hot dress. I do not have a leather dress. And I realise I may also not have leather pants anymore. Should be redressed.