I might send him a card. An empty card, meaning no money, wouldn't be rude?

I absolutely don't think so. I will tell you, the only type of rudeness I bristled at, in my own situation was family members who didn't even send a card, or call, or anything. here's what the newly eloped people are thinking: "wheeeeeee! I'm married and happy and in love! Wheeee!! Someone sent a card, and it is celebrating our love! Wheeee!!!!!"

That might have only been me. I was only upset by relatives who have still yet to even acknowledge I got married with any form of "congratulations." I think a thoughtful card would make whoever you were sending it to be happy. As Miss Manners says, you are in no way obligated to send a wedding gift.

My friend is also pregnant, so I was going to send her something when the baby is born. Maybe if I cannot find her registry I can just send her a baby-type gift? Does that sound like a good idea to anyone?

This sounds like a great idea.

A card is always acceptable, sj. You never *have* to give a gift. Never.

When I got married, I invited a ton of people that I hadn't seen in years because I thought it would be a good opportunity to see then, not because I wanted gifts. The mother of two elopers is probably just inviting everyone she can think of so she can feel like a good hostess.

A card is always acceptable, sj. You never *have* to give a gift. Never.

Repeated because I feel it deserves emphasis.

SJ, I think they sent a card to you because people, on the whole, get more huffy about NOT being invited/informed about weddings than the opposite. Even people who haven't seen you in 10 years. And a nice card would be fine--you can throw in a little gift certificate to Bed Bath and Beyond or something if you want a token in there, but it isn't required.

Thanks for all the advice. I really appreciate it.

IOmememeN, I made another yummy dinner last night and this time without a recipe. I am starting to really like the cooking thing. We also so Batman Begins last night. So.damn.good.

cooking is way fun.

We've been trying to use up all the random food we have in the fridge and freezer (as well as the pantry) so we had refrigerator velcro pasta with shrimp, kalamata olives, summer squash, and prociutto on Wednesday, and fish fajitas with tilapia, and fixins: sour cream, guacamole, roasted red peppers, cheese, lettuce, and fat free refried black beans. It's an adventure! Both meals were yummy.

Hey, Bitches. I can't believe Fay thinks she is un-anything.(I'll have to remember this next time I think I'm hideous.)

Hec, I educated the young today, in a way you would appreciate. Some time ago I wrote this drabble with Det. Munch and Phil Spector, of which I am vain as fuck, right? This morning, first comment? "Who's Phil Spector?" Grr. Argh.

So I googled him, but not too much, cause he might get into it and bring the chains out, and thought "Dig me, to her I am as Hecubus." It was a trip...guess my dad taught me something after all.

Utah sea salt

::checks map:: Nope, no inland sea.

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We've been trying to use up all the random food we have in the fridge and freezer (as well as the pantry)

Last night was random food dinner for us too. Trying to save money. So I made pasta with leftover grape tomatos from dinner the other night, olives, cannelini beans, garlic, and some nice parigiano reggiano, also leftover from the other night.

::checks map:: Nope, no inland sea.

t stares at the expanse of the Great Salt Lake

Um, sorry, beg to differ.