We have one left, Erin. You can have it.

I'll take it! Although my favorite donut is chocolate honey-glazed. MMM.

Even if Playgirl's audience is gay men (which we kinda figured) the gay men I know should be appalled at the quality of nekkid men in PG.

Resolved: to get my porn off the Internet. Print porn is too limited.

I seem to have quite a bit of cold pizza and coconut rum. (If anyone is interested.)

A friend of mine who I haven't seen in years, but who I have known since I was 4, eloped recently. It seemes her mother is now throwing her an after the fact informal reception. I received an invitation to it. I don't want to attend, but I wanted to send a little gift. Would you believe that the couple's last name is not listed anywhere on the invitation? I have tried to find their wedding registry, at the stores that the invitation said they are registered at, under the brides maiden name, with no luck.

Would you believe that the couple's last name is not listed anywhere on the invitation? I have tried to find their wedding registry, at the stores that the invitation said they are registered at, under the brides maiden name, with no luck.

That's crazy, sj! Call her mom, maybe?

Call her mom, maybe?

I'm going to make my mother do that. My mom and her mom were good friends once upon a time too, and Mom also got invited. We were also both invited to a reception for the friend's brother, who also eloped. This I find more annoying, because I haven't seen this guy in well over a decade, and I don't think I should even have to send a gift to that.

No last name? And no registry under her maiden name? That's pretty amazing.

well, as an eloped person, I think that one gives up any and all claims to gifts as an eloper. A card would be nice though. Send him a card.

(ETA: er, not to tell you what to do or anything)

Wow, they both eloped within a short amount of time?

Wow, they both eloped within a short amount of time?

Yeah, they both eloped recently without telling their mother ahead of time, and I think she felt bad and left out so she is throwing these receptions.

well, as an eloped person, I think that one gives up any and all claims to gifts as an eloper. A card would be nice though. Send him a card.

I might send him a card. An empty card, meaning no money, wouldn't be rude? I am not sure what the etiquette is here. My friend is also pregnant, so I was going to send her something when the baby is born. Maybe if I cannot find her registry I can just send her a baby-type gift? Does that sound like a good idea to anyone?

(ETA: er, not to tell you what to do or anything)

No, I am looking for people to tell me what to do. I am sort of at a loss. The brother's invite feels a little like begging for a gift to me because I never really new him and haven't seen him in ages, but maybe I am thinking of it wrongly.

Even if it's begging, you aren't obligated to give anything, sj. I find this kind of "gimme, gimme" attitude a bit like highway robbery. They feel since they told you about the marriage, you're obliged to fork over dough. Nuh and uh.