And he agreed be extra-super-sensitive to things that could appear to be violations of trust.
Which is, ironically, I think why he lied about it.
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And he agreed be extra-super-sensitive to things that could appear to be violations of trust.
Which is, ironically, I think why he lied about it.
Jen, remember, he is as scared as you.
If it's not too complex and technical, how does one do a reverse IP lookup? Or should I take that to the techie thread?
Jen, I'm sorry. I have no real input due to lack of successful relationship experience. I know I've googled every man I've been interested in for the past few years, but I don't know how I'd feel about saying, "Yeah, I knew you were mentioned in the San Juan Tribune because I googled your name for three hours last night."
Which is, ironically, I think why he lied about it.
I think so, too, Hec.
For all your IP detecting needs. Just use the "Do Stuff" button.
I think googling is in the place where everyone google-familiar is likely to do it, but still not at the place where you talk about it easily.
Robin, I don't think he is. He's never been married, he's not immediately post-serious-relationship, and he has said over and over again that he's never had his heart stomped on quite the same way I have. He's not struggling with the reality of having a crappy disease. He's not struggling with having had someone walk out on him because of it.
Jen, I know when I get information about somebody quasi-surreptitiously -- say somebody told me, then said "Oops, forget I said that", I often try to get a legitimate link to the information so I"m off the hook.
Truly, the choice between being Creepy Stalker Googling Guy and Fibbing Guy is a tough one.
Jen, I think you just need to talk to him very directly about it. Just lay out the facts and let him come clean, and then explain how it pinged you in a negative way. This needs some straightforward communication, and he needs to learn some things about being with you.
Also, he will be impressed/scared by your kickass detective work.
My problem is that he actively engaged in pretense
Maybe not. Maybe he googled you, followed the link to the page but didn't really read it (if you google yourself, is there a lot of stuff? Is it obviously you?), and didn't recognize the URL when you gave it to him.
I don't think he is
He may be scared of losing you. That doesn't have to be dependent on his history. He might like you a lot, plain and simple.