I just want to add that I'm appreciative of everyone's bravery in sharing their stories and for Dana for making the proposal initially. Although P-C has not crossed any boundaries with me (or in front of me) in a long time, he clearly has done so with other women, and I hate that we have lost people as a result. I suspect that, as Laura says, it is a deeply rooted unconscious issue rather than outright malice, but that doesn't matter. The end result is the same.
Although this community has shrunk over the years and many of us have become infrequent posters, it is one of my most beloved homes. I love how we have come together again and again to support each other, to share our triumphs and milestones, and to mourn.
I don't know if P-C will respond or if he has already made the decision to leave, and it doesn't really matter to me either way. I will say this directly to him: Sunil, I don't hate you or wish you ill. I am deeply saddened by the fact that your actions, conscious or not, have led to this point, and I hope you make the choice to seek therapy — both to process the pain of being called out in two of your communities, and to try to get to the bottom of what is leading to these behaviors. I wish you the best in your future. But this community needs a fresh start, and we cannot be a part of your process.
To everyone else, I care deeply about us as a community and truly hope we can transcend and come closer as a result of this situation.