Is there somebody you could ask to be your Dan Dority and tell folks you're "not receiving"?
I'm working out the wording on dis-inviting her to Thanksgiving before she gets any ideas.
Harken: You fought with Captain Reynolds in the war? Zoe: Fought with a lot of people in the war. Harken: And your husband? Zoe: Fight with him sometimes, too.
'Bushwhacked'
Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
DavidS - Sep 24, 2023 6:14:34 pm PDT #25621 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
DavidS - Sep 24, 2023 6:21:52 pm PDT #25622 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
When she was trying to compliment me on the phone last week by saying, "I've looked through Jacqueline's photos as a child and she was always laughing. Then after the horrible incident when she was 14 she's not laughing in any pictures until she's married to you.
There are a lot of things I don't like about your marriage with Jacqueline but I want you to know that I appreciate that about you."
That was her idea of reaching out.
-t - Sep 24, 2023 6:24:20 pm PDT #25623 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
I’m so sorry, Hec. I know how hard that is and I don’t know any helpful tips to bear up under it, but you’ve got my sympathy
sj - Sep 24, 2023 6:25:55 pm PDT #25624 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Hec, I’m sorry. She sounds like the opposite of Jacqueline. Does she have a good relationship with Matilda?
erikaj - Sep 24, 2023 6:28:15 pm PDT #25625 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!
I had a grandma like this, too.Maybe worse, if only slightly. When we were kids, she had a portrait taken...of herself. I learned the word "prostitute" because she dressed as one for her dancing school costume party.(I might make that up, but I swear I didn't!) I tell my mom she should be crazier, but she says it's bad enough. Make no mistake...although I can't even imagine the whole maternal grief thing? If there are sides, I'm totally on yours. Even if everything was great between, y'all you need some peace and backrub more than you need to host anyone.
erikaj - Sep 24, 2023 6:32:33 pm PDT #25626 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!
My brother is an awesome grandma wrangler. (At times, it verges on the disturbing when one pictures meeting his girlfriend with glasses on a chain) But I wish he could run interference for you...she'd love him, too.
dcp - Sep 24, 2023 6:32:55 pm PDT #25627 of 30000
The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know.
Strength to you, Hec. It is hard, but it should pay off in the long run if you can refrain from feeding the negative energy creature.
DavidS - Sep 24, 2023 6:37:20 pm PDT #25628 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Does she have a good relationship with Matilda?
They are close. But Matilda is kind of mad at her for yelling at me when Jacqueline's body was taken out. And generally just being a sour-ass presence for the last weeks.
erikaj - Sep 24, 2023 6:41:25 pm PDT #25629 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!
No bullshit, Hecubus, but you have been my fucking hero for how you've handled all that stuff. I think my mother might build a shrine or some shit, because even though she's given up on men, for some reason she doesn't want me to(Not that the World At Large tells the difference between me On The Market or off, exactly.) But I think she's hoping I find one with nurturant qualities and an empty dance card.
erikaj - Sep 24, 2023 6:44:10 pm PDT #25630 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!
Which is, kind of, good luck. Not that I'd be at a commemoration all, "So, got plans after this?"