I thought she was asleep and then felt guilty that she felt she had to comfort me.
Children are allowed to support their parents. Parents are allowed to cry.
Both of my parents cried in my arms when their fathers died.
Home schooling? You know, it's not just for scary religious people anymore.
Buffy ,'Beneath You'
Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
DavidS - May 04, 2022 10:09:34 am PDT #14896 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
sj - May 04, 2022 10:13:10 am PDT #14897 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Intellectually I know that but emotionally I know she’s dealing with so much of her own grief and I want her to feel that everything here is safe and stable for her.
JenP - May 04, 2022 10:14:43 am PDT #14898 of 30000
I'm so sorry for your loss, sj, and I'm glad you and your people, including your amazing and empathetic child, are taking care of you... and each other.
Epic, sending you all the marshalling of reserves, troops, health, fortitude, etc. vibes that there are.
DavidS - May 04, 2022 10:30:10 am PDT #14899 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Intellectually I know that but emotionally I know she’s dealing with so much of her own grief and I want her to feel that everything here is safe and stable for her.
I think it feels safe for her. And seeing your grief validates hers, and shows how much you loved him as well.
There's a difference between a child constantly being put in the role of emotional support, and a significant event like this with a shared grief.
-t - May 04, 2022 10:45:50 am PDT #14900 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
So, other people are taking care of me too.
Good!
ltc came running out of her room last night with a stuffed animal for me to hold when she heard me crying.
It probably makes her feel better to be able to comfort you. It works that way for me a lot of the time, I know.
-t - May 04, 2022 10:54:06 am PDT #14901 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
My company is apparently celebrating "star wars day" now. I'm not sure how I feel about that. We do get cake pops, so that's good. There's trivia later and for some reason I don't expect that to go well. Maybe I'm wrong.
Steph L. - May 04, 2022 11:49:56 am PDT #14902 of 30000
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
My dad called the police in the middle of the night because he said his hallucination people (remember them?) were stealing $80,000 from him. The police convinced him to go to the hospital, and most of the standard tests they ran were normal, except he has a UTI (which can make elderly people hallucinate) and pretty bad anemia. The hospital has, obviously, scheduled a consultation with a psychiatrist. No idea how long he'll be in the hospital, or if they might transfer him to a mental health unit/hospital.
I'm aware this is going to sound terrible, but: we're leaving for vacation on Sunday, and I'm not changing my plans to stay home. There is literally nothing I can do to help him. He's in a hospital, which is where he needs to be.
I'm also aware it's probably pretty unhealthy, but I'm drinking a beer right now, because I literally cannot think of any other way to cope with this shit.
Steph L. - May 04, 2022 11:50:35 am PDT #14903 of 30000
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
My company is apparently celebrating "star wars day" now. I'm not sure how I feel about that.
It's also Dave Brubeck Day. Because, 5/4 time.
JenP - May 04, 2022 12:07:12 pm PDT #14904 of 30000
I'm sorry your dad is having a rough time of it, Steph, but it sounds 100% reasonable to me that you are going on your vacation and, yeah, the hospital with professionals is where he needs to be... and where he is. Not tha you needed external validation, but I just felt like agreeing with something today.
Also, enjoy vacation! Where to?
-t - May 04, 2022 12:13:10 pm PDT #14905 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
That does not sound terrible, Tep. He's being taken care of and you are correct, there is nothing you can do. I hope you enjoy your vacation! And the beer. I have been idly wondering about your dad's hallucinations, I'm sorry it came to a dramatic head but I'm glad there wasn't actual violence or anything.
It's also Dave Brubeck Day. Because, 5/4 time.
I really want this to come up in the trivia thing! I will be ready!