Timelies all!
We ended up postponing the playdate because Gary's fighting a cold. They're busy tomorrow, so it'll have to be a different weekend.
Question: Will hiding in a cavern with stockpiled chocolate goods be any part of this plan?
Xander ,'Get It Done'
Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Sheryl - Mar 09, 2019 9:36:44 am PST #5779 of 30019
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
-t - Mar 09, 2019 9:46:39 am PST #5780 of 30019
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
When everyone says you are a failure it's probably true
No, that doesn't sound right. Who is this "everyone"?
Jesse - Mar 09, 2019 10:53:04 am PST #5781 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
This may or may not be relevant, but also feedback about how to improve, especially when you're doing something new, is not the same thing as being a failure. You should be learning at your new job! It's still new!
Theodosia - Mar 09, 2019 11:03:27 am PST #5782 of 30019
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"
Jesse is a manager, you know. And she's studied management, too, which gives her a certain amount of authority on workers getting to know their new jobs!
lisah - Mar 09, 2019 11:05:10 am PST #5783 of 30019
Punishingly Intricate
This may or may not be relevant, but also feedback about how to improve, especially when you're doing something new, is not the same thing as being a failure. You should be learning at your new job! It's still new!
This times a million.
Jesse - Mar 09, 2019 11:28:35 am PST #5784 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Jesse is a manager, you know. And she's studied management, too, which gives her a certain amount of authority on workers getting to know their new jobs!
It's true. I'm very reliable on this front.
DavidS - Mar 09, 2019 11:28:55 am PST #5785 of 30019
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
When everyone says you are a failure it's probably true
Nobody here thinks you're a failure! To the contrary you're loved and appreciated. We know how much work you're doing on the board (among other things).
Gudanov - Mar 09, 2019 11:30:18 am PST #5786 of 30019
Coding and Sleeping
but also feedback about how to improve, especially when you're doing something new, is not the same thing as being a failure
This wasn't feedback about how to improve. This was fail again and you're out.
Atropa - Mar 09, 2019 11:42:17 am PST #5787 of 30019
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
This wasn't feedback about how to improve. This was fail again and you're out.
You're a brand new employee. That is not an acceptable way to interact with ANY employee, but especially a new one. Ask them for written feedback. Ask them for HR documentation that states one failure is one step away from being fired. Go up the management food chain (in email, so you have documentation) asking if this is the management strategy of the company.
And no matter what answers you get, get the hell out of that job. They're not a good workplace environment.
Also, tell your wife that all of your attention and energy HAS to be focused on your work situation, and she needs to take care of everything around the house that you usually do. That this is not up for argument, this is what a supportive spouse needs to do.
Finally: YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE. YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON. All of us have your back, want the best for you, and a lot of us probably want to fly out to you and have some terse but polite confrontations with some people in your life.
Gudanov - Mar 09, 2019 11:51:13 am PST #5788 of 30019
Coding and Sleeping
My wife has been great about it. I think she senses how stressful this is for me and is laying off and helping out.