You are not selfish Gud. Your wife is acting selfish and cruel and has been for a long time. Your son seems to be especially suffering from her actions. Please, please talk to a therapist.
Angel: Is that what you think you are--a hero? Spike: Saved the world didn't I? Angel: Once. Talk to me after you've done it a couple more times.
'Destiny'
Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
askye - Mar 02, 2019 5:41:52 pm PST #5535 of 30019
Thrive to spite them
chrismg - Mar 02, 2019 5:47:00 pm PST #5536 of 30019
"...and then Legolas and the Hulk destroy the entire Greek army." - Penny Arcade
Gud, I don't usually comment on personal issues, but I want to urge you as strongly as I can to take a step back and look at this objectively. There is one person who has spent all day doing things for their family, and one who has cut themselves off and done nothing. The one who should recognize their selfishness and feel guilty is NOT the one who spent all day contributing.
The parts of our brain meant to feel empathy for others and the urge to help can be hijacked both by our own illnesses and by hostile outsiders to keep us from recognizing the real work we've done for others.
shrift - Mar 02, 2019 6:48:46 pm PST #5537 of 30019
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
All I've done today is cook, wash a load of towels, vacuum my apartment during a period break while watching hockey, and a quick trip to the grocery store. But I'm still relaxing and drinking a glass of wine. Is it selfish for me to do this even though I spent most of the day noodling around? No, because productivity isn't a requirement for my continued existence, which is something I have to keep telling myself.
I'm going to presume this happened at karaoke night when you were rocking out and head banging too close to the mic.
I'm not going to stop you if you think I'm living an exciting life or that I'd voluntarily engage in karaoke. The last time I was close to doing karaoke was years ago in New York when my work team rented a private karaoke room with buckets of beer. When pressed to sing, I cheerfully informed them that I was a grown-ass adult who didn't respond to peer pressure.
I hope the chipped tooth doesn't hurt too much, shrift!
Thanks. It doesn't really hurt unless I catch my tongue on the snaggletooth.
shrift - Mar 02, 2019 6:56:44 pm PST #5538 of 30019
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
Ooh, just folded and put away the towels, AND washed the pan that's been sitting in the sink most of the week.
Also: congrats, Scrappy!
Consuela - Mar 02, 2019 7:04:04 pm PST #5539 of 30019
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Gud, please please please listen to the Buffistas who care about you. We've known you for years: we are not strangers. We know you do not deserve this treatment, and you need to learn to convince your brain that you are worthy.
IT IS OKAY TO ASK FOR HELP.
Please please get help. Call the hotline, find a local therapist, anything. It will help you, it will help your children.
Katerina Bee - Mar 02, 2019 9:12:42 pm PST #5540 of 30019
Herding cats for fun
Why is that helicopter flying around and around over my house? I hope this doesn't mean a grisly Accident on the 880 that I will have to read about in the morning.
-t - Mar 03, 2019 4:55:35 am PST #5541 of 30019
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Uuuuuugh. Woke up with a belly ache and had to go throw up before even feeding the cats. This was not my plan for the day.
amych - Mar 03, 2019 5:00:29 am PST #5542 of 30019
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
Gud-is-good-bot isn't even gonna yell today. Just know that you ARE good, and deserving of help and support, and we're behind you in a million ways big and small.
WindSparrow - Mar 03, 2019 5:10:47 am PST #5543 of 30019
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
-t, feel better soon.
Laura - Mar 03, 2019 5:24:02 am PST #5544 of 30019
Our wings are not tired.
I'm sorry, -t. Tummy~ma.
I should be productive today since I really wasn't yesterday. I stayed in bed until 8 this morning! Read a couple chapters instead of getting up early as usual. I know better than to try and actually sleep in. I did get up and feed the animals and left the back door open for them. Then back into bed with a book. Whee!
I guess I'll do dishes now.