Meanwhile, my wife has decided she will no longer be part of the family and stayed at her office all day. I made a dinner I know she likes, hoping maybe she'd have dinner with my daughter and I and maybe feel more like she's a part of things, but that didn't work very well. She's isolated herself in our room and took her dinner there. I want to do something to make her feel better, but I'm not sure what. Most things seem to result in hostility or being dismissed.
Also, I've been nonstop busy all day and I really just want to relax for a bit, which probably makes me as selfish as she says I am.
Gud, if your wife has decided she's not part of the family, then I don't see why you have to do shit for her. No cooking, no working on her website, no laundry, nothing on her car.
I'm not feeling any sympathy for the wife here. Sorry, it seems
a benefit to all if she stays away for a while. I certainly wouldn't cater to her sulking either. I work hard, but I know each and every day how much my efforts are appreciated. No way I would cater to someone who wasn't grateful, or worse, who was critical.
Just stating facts.
I wish I could kill myself and stop all the stress
Would you please, PLEASE see a therapist? If you are at the point of wishing you could end your life, you need professional help very, VERY badly.
And frankly, if she's not contributing to the family, I don't see why she gets any part of your salary either.
Thank you all for your kind words.
Gud, my heart goes out to you. At this point I am not at all sure how to convey support and love to you in a way that would be most meaningful to you. I wish I did, because you deserve to be lifted up by people who care about you. You deserve kindness. It is not selfish to want to relax after a busy day like you have had. You deserve rest and relaxation too.
I'm so sorry, WindSparrow. He was incredibly loved.
Gud, my heart goes out to you. At this point I am not at all sure how to convey support and love to you in a way that would be most meaningful to you. I wish I did, because you deserve to be lifted up by people who care about you. You deserve kindness. It is not selfish to want to relax after a busy day like you have had. You deserve rest and relaxation too.
Exactly what WindSparrow said. Exactly. Sending you love, and if it would help, sending your wife love, too, in the hope that she can find help for herself.
Also, I've been nonstop busy all day and I really just want to relax for a bit, which probably makes me as selfish as she says I am.
It absolutely positively does not.
Gud, there is no way on God's green earth that any rational person would call you selfish for wanting a little time to relax after a busy day. No fucking way.
If you really are feeling like you want to end your life, I echo what Steph said about a therapist, but in the moment, there are also a number of hotlines you can call. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline's number is 800-273-8255.
