Your wife is entirely wrong.
She won't change. She will always find fault with you because she is abusive .
Mal: Does.. um.. does this seem kind of tight? Kaylee: Shows off your backside.
'Shindig'
Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess
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askye - Oct 08, 2018 7:33:22 am PDT #542 of 30019
Thrive to spite them
Sheryl - Oct 08, 2018 8:36:57 am PDT #543 of 30019
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
Gary and I have today off from work, but the nursery school/daycare is open, so we have a rare day at home alone.
-t - Oct 08, 2018 8:41:21 am PDT #544 of 30019
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Nice, Sheryl. Enjoy!
My bellydance teacher just sent out an email saying she is taking a break from dancing and the three of us remaining in the troupe should collectively figure out choreography and costumes and whatever for a while. I do not have a good feeling about this. I mean, it's probably a good thing for her to take a break, she has a broken bone in her foot and has been making noises about retiring for the past year, but I know none of us want to do choreography. Bah.
Laura - Oct 08, 2018 9:09:47 am PDT #545 of 30019
Our wings are not tired.
Your wife is entirely wrong.
She won't change. She will always find fault with you because she is abusive .
Truth.
I'm sorry, -t. I hope you find someone to take her place.
Gudanov - Oct 08, 2018 9:36:38 am PDT #546 of 30019
Coding and Sleeping
She also told me that the I did the cruelest thing that's ever been done to her, which makes me feel terrible. I'm not even sure what that is and that makes me feel like the worst person ever. I can't help but wonder if she's right and I'm really just that horrible of a person. Maybe I hide it when I online or something. Terrible as I'm feeling, I have to somehow keep my wits because I'd still under a lot of pressure from work. I can't stand how I am right now and there's no way out.
Steph L. - Oct 08, 2018 9:43:27 am PDT #547 of 30019
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated
She also told me that the I did the cruelest thing that's ever been done to her
She is abusive and manipulative. She is abusing YOU. I hope she's not also abusing your children.
I can't help but wonder if she's right and I'm really just that horrible of a person.
Is it easier for you to believe that than it is to believe that you're married to an abuser? I can understand how it could be easier to believe that the fault lies with you, but I desperately wish we could make you comprehend and really believe that you are married to an abuser.
Scrappy - Oct 08, 2018 9:43:43 am PDT #548 of 30019
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Gud, not seeing a text does not mean anything, especially since you finally did answer and explained. Try to hear all of us when we say this to you. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. As to "the worst thing," when you are calmer, ask her to explain. If she won't, that's just an unkind and abusive thing to say and it's not worth even thinking about. If she does, then you can work though it together.
Dana - Oct 08, 2018 9:44:27 am PDT #549 of 30019
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."
She also told me that the I did the cruelest thing that's ever been done to her, which makes me feel terrible. I'm not even sure what that is
Gud, no one makes that accusation without actually specifying what they're talking about. She may believe it's true, but she's using it as a weapon against you.
Atropa - Oct 08, 2018 10:46:25 am PDT #550 of 30019
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Gud, you did NOTHING wrong. NOTHING. You are not a bad person. You are being emotionally abused, and you (and the kids!) deserve so much better.
As to "the worst thing," when you are calmer, ask her to explain. If she won't, that's just an unkind and abusive thing to say and it's not worth even thinking about. If she does, then you can work though it together.
This needs to be repeated, and scrappy is wise.
Connie Neil - Oct 08, 2018 10:56:48 am PDT #551 of 30019
brillig
Please believe all of us over the one of her. Please at least entertain the idea that she could be wrong.