Happy birthdays!

Sending you warmth from "hi, it's November and I'm wearing a t-shirt".

Edited to add: Steph, oy. I'm sorry. Vibes for you and your brother.

Sending you warmth from "hi, it's November and I'm wearing a t-shirt".

It's below freezing here, so I will take all the warmth you can send. My toes are little blocks of ice.

{{{Tep}}} That's scary as hell but it sounds like you are doing all the right things (and if it's something you are wondering about, your reactions are totally normal). It does sound like your brother is in a much better place this time than a few years ago. Here's hoping it's just a blip in his recovery.

{{{Steph}}} I'm sorry. Much ~am for your brother. He's lucky to have you.

Teppy, love to you and your brother.

Good things:

You didn't catch him; he chose to come clean.

He chose to call you.

He chose to tell his wife.

He has a disease which impairs his judgment about the disease, but it seems he is still healthy enough to know he needs take steps to counteract that and he's started taking those steps.

His sober friend will be a good resource to help him as he reclaims his sobriety. Your brother knows that, and he called that sober friend (instead of choosing to avoid him).

Has he been one to go to AA meetings? Is he going to go to a meeting?

(Not pushing it. I know AA isn't for everyone, but a lot of people will do 90 meetings in 90 days after a slip.)

You weren't stupid. You were hopeful.

Has he been one to go to AA meetings? Is he going to go to a meeting?

He doesn't go to AA meetings. He really doesn't like them. He does have an excellent therapist, who he's been seeing since his relapse in 2016.

{{Teppy and Bro}} No doubt he is massively disappointed in himself, but he needs to be proud that he has reached out to the people who will hold him accountable. It's hard to slip the way he has, but it sounds like he and you are making the right moves to set things straight.

Much love to you and your brother, Teppy

He doesn't go to AA meetings. He really doesn't like them. He does have an excellent therapist, who he's been seeing since his relapse in 2016.

And he's in touch with the therapist. It sounds like he's doing everything to correct course. Telling you (who wouldn't know unless/until things blew up) and his wife, from whom he could conceivably hide it if he got totally off everything by the weekend, is really promising. It sounds like he wants to get and stay sober in a very real way.

Try to breathe. You're doing what you can do. It's hard to be an accountability partner, but your brother even welcomed that. Love to you.

Ugh that sounds so hard, Teppy. Def sounds like he's doing better than the last time, and hopefully his therapist can dig into what made him relapse now, but yikes. Good luck to you, and to him.