Ugh that sounds so hard, Teppy. Def sounds like he's doing better than the last time, and hopefully his therapist can dig into what made him relapse now, but yikes. Good luck to you, and to him.
Seems like everyone's got a tale to tell.
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meara - Nov 13, 2019 7:45:59 am PST #6536 of 8213
Steph L. - Nov 13, 2019 7:49:44 am PST #6537 of 8213
I look more rad than Lutheranism
First call update: he and the friend who came over were getting ready to take the dog for a walk, so he'll call me back in half an hour or so. A walk sounds good. When I was out there in 2016, he literally couldn't leave the house, even to take the dog out to pee, for 2 days.
So he really does seem to be in a better place this time. But it's still freaking my shit out hard. I'm having a really hard time concentrating on work.
I'm going to throw a load of towels in the laundry and make lunch. I think I need to accept that my concentration is going to be shitty today.
Amy - Nov 13, 2019 8:18:36 am PST #6538 of 8213
Because books.
Aw, Tep, I'm sorry. That's a lot. But I agree with what Cindy said, and it sounds like your brother is doing all the right things right now, which is promising.
Happy birthday, Hil!
amyparker - Nov 13, 2019 8:29:22 am PST #6539 of 8213
You've got friends to have good times with. When you need to share the trauma of a badly-written book with someone, that's when you go to family.
Tep, hey, of course you're freaked. The last time this happened, it was bad, and you're afraid for him. Give yourself permission to say "Welp, this is not gonna be a good detail day" and put what focus you've got on broader-stroke things like the laundry and dishes.
Hil, happy birthday!
Steph L. - Nov 13, 2019 10:41:01 am PST #6540 of 8213
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Latest phone call update: he has 2 friends there, and still sounds pretty decent. MUCH better than he was on day 1 of his beer taper in 2016. I'll give him another call in 2 hours and see how he's doing.
erikaj - Nov 13, 2019 10:41:31 am PST #6541 of 8213
Always Anti-fascist!
Sorry, Tep. Get it together, Tep's brother. (Is Rational Recovery still a group?) Hi, Shir, from another member of the t-shirt caucus. I'm not sure what self-care is a lot of the time, cause my work life and my life bleed together so much, but for today I'm gonna decide it's not arguing about labor unions with somebody who posted that an auto job in MS is a "golden goose"
Steph L. - Nov 13, 2019 10:44:41 am PST #6542 of 8213
I look more rad than Lutheranism
(Is Rational Recovery still a group?)
I think it is, and I feel like he did check them out as an alternative to AA, but didn't stick with them, either.
erikaj - Nov 13, 2019 10:57:22 am PST #6543 of 8213
Always Anti-fascist!
Some people are not joiners...I get it, but I hope he has enough support. what do I know? Got pulled in with Golden Goose dude anyway.(Still don't know why this guy follows me. Of course, in a rom-com, we'd kiss each other silly while fighting over card-check or whatever, but I don't think that ever really happens.)
Scrappy - Nov 13, 2019 11:01:39 am PST #6544 of 8213
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Oh, Teppy, I've been there. Sounds like he's doing exactly what he should, but being far away and having this just kind of come out of the blue must be a real gut punch for you. Sending lots of strength vibes your way.
amyth - Nov 13, 2019 11:18:12 am PST #6545 of 8213
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen
Steph, I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. It's so hard to worry about a loved one from far away. It does sound like your brother is doing better than last time, but it's still so scary. Lots of love and ~ma to both of you.