You're a good mother, Laura.
I have two glimmers of hope here: He lets people who care about him do things to help him so on some level, for all his excuses, he knows he's in trouble and needs the help. The second is that he's living with good people who care about him and trust you - somewhere deep inside he still has the good sense and self-respect you and his father instilled in him and stays close to good people.
All my love.
I just got caught up from February and wanted to say hello. Wishing everyone well.
So sorry, Laura. What a difficult thing to struggle with for all of you.
Laura all I can say is that your son (both of them, of course) are so incredibly lucky to have you and Brendan as parents. Much love to you.
Thank you for the love and support. I am frustrated with him today. (understatement) I was picking him up at 9:30 to take him to find out about getting a schedule where he used to work. He messaged me at 4AM to come later because he was watching esports finals until late. I picked him up at 10:30. Took him to workplace, but apparently he isn't actually employed there anymore. The ride to and from was filled with him being miserable and filled with excuses. Then he doesn't see why he can't just work for me. Long story, more him being miserable and giving excuses. Then as I dropped him off I let him know that I found out about the OD. Told him medical staff told me and then I found the details on his "friend's" FB page. Friend I don't mind him being mad at, and he would find it abnormal for me to know the medical staff. After I dropped him I sent him a letter I wrote him yesterday detailing my concerns. Detailed my priority list of 1) getting him physically and mentally healthy, 2) getting him employable and 3) clearing his legal issues (another long story).
I'll see how he responds. I know he read it.
{{{Laura }}}
The way you are handling all this seems sensible.
So much ~ma and strength to you and your family, Laura.