Steph, I'm an extrovert and that's officially Way Too Much. I'm going to add myself to the validation chorus - do what you need to do for you. You can explain why or not, up to you. Good friends will understand.

I think the guy i was supposed to go out with is ghosting. And even if he isn't, I'm not thrilled to meet up anymore since he's left me waiting until 2 hrs prior to date time. Present company excluded, dudes just ain't shit.

Jessica, reading that made me feel as though my hair is on fire, I'm so furious.

I don't know, I just feel like people who are all "We picked the date of the party so you could be here since you missed the last party" are not going to be cool about me missing again unless I'm actively on fire or something. And why do they care so much if *I'm* there, anyway? It's a party! Where there are MANY people. One person shouldn't matter.

Steph, would it help to practice a script along the lines of, "I so appreciate you thinking of me like that. But my mom just had open heart surgery and she needs me"? You don't have to tell them that what you mean is that your mom needs you to not be a hot mess of anxiety, stress, and whatever physical ailment crop up for you when your stress level goes through the roof whether you spend any time with her on that day or not.

I think the guy i was supposed to go out with is ghosting.

What a jerk. Stick 'im in a lecture hall with my brother.

I ended up not using my wheelchair today -- chickened out of using it in front of students. But I was able to rearrange the after-work plans to minimize walking, so that worked out OK. (Went to a shopping center and hung out there and got dinner there and saw the movie there, rather than doing those things at all different places.) The grilled cheese restaurant was out of vegan cheese, which was disappointing. Wonder Woman was awesome.

Jess, that father sounds like he really needs to grow up.

Also, my GPS had me driving all over downtown Cincinnati, since it kept telling me to turn onto streets that didn't exist or that had signs saying no turns allowed.

I'm glad you found a way to make it work so you could see Wonder Woman, and you liked it.

There's a Star Wars costume exhibit at a museum here, and I think I might go see that sometime next week and use my wheelchair -- it seems like a good place to get the hang of how the chair moves, before trying it on the really uneven pavement on campus. Plus, Star Wars costumes.

Steph, give yourself a fucking break! You deserve it! Life events of the unplanned variety always trump the ones of the planned ilk. Any adult knows this. If your friends don't get it, they will get over it.

Jessica, smite that asshole to dust!

Hil, glad you saw WW.

As someone that tries to plan things so person x can be there - say I can't go this time. The reason I plan things around someone - is because they have the hard schedule. But , no matter how disappointed I am that someone can't make it, shit happens.

I have horrid things going on at work. Admin bullshit - that had me in tears yesterday. So far I am going forward with a everything. but I said yes to one thing next weekend -and I am still thinking of doing a last minute Fuck it - and running away for the weekend

The only thing you have to do - is say so sorry , I can't make it- if you feel like it - you have two good excuses- but really - you don't need them

Why not say you are terribly sorry, but due to the Great Pants Crisis of 2017, the calendar has become fracked and is no longer cromulent.