Why not say you are terribly sorry, but due to the Great Pants Crisis of 2017, the calendar has become fracked and is no longer cromulent.
Uh, are we gonna fight, or is there just gonna be a monster sarcasm rally?
Stoner Vamp ,'Lessons'
Spike's Bitches 49: As usual, I'm here to help you, and I... are you naked under there?
Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Katerina Bee - Jun 09, 2017 7:55:09 pm PDT #503 of 8185
Herding cats for fun
P.M. Marc - Jun 09, 2017 8:00:52 pm PDT #504 of 8185
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Tep, you have had so much shit hitting multiple fans that just saying up front, hey, I know I thought I could make this, but we've had one crisis too many and I am exhausted and just can't right now seems more than reasonable.
And if they push back? FUCK THOSE GUYS.
WindSparrow - Jun 09, 2017 8:02:13 pm PDT #505 of 8185
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
beth, sorry to hear about work being a bear. I hope you can de-stress yourself.
Calli - Jun 10, 2017 1:47:16 am PDT #506 of 8185
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Steph, your mom just had major open heart surgery. Anyone else who insists on your social presence and personal energy for the next month is an asshat and needs to STFU.
Laura - Jun 10, 2017 5:03:59 am PDT #507 of 8185
Our wings are not tired.
Steph, give yourself a fucking break! You deserve it! Life events of the unplanned variety always trump the ones of the planned ilk. Any adult knows this. If your friends don't get it, they will get over it.
Jessica, smite that asshole to dust!
Hil, glad you saw WW.
What quester and others have said. I am just catching up here.
In Tallahassee for a b-ball tournament. 57 teams from all over so there are lots and lots of teens and coaches and so forth all over the place. I haven't gone to any of the games because I am just dedicated to relaxing. I have read a bunch, and swam. Now awaiting a friend to pick me up who I haven't seen in years.
Do I feel guilty that DH's team had 3 games yesterday and another 3 today and I am not doing a team mom thing? Maybe, but it isn't altering my relaxation plans, because I know I need the down time. Self care for the win!
WindSparrow - Jun 10, 2017 5:31:07 am PDT #508 of 8185
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Strix, all the ~ma for D's family.
Strix - Jun 10, 2017 5:42:48 am PDT #509 of 8185
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Tep, as an introvert with soc anx, I empathize entirely. That sounds wholly overwhelming. I've had to learn to try to balance letting go of feeling so fucking shitty when I have to renege on a social engagement and pushing my comfort levels so that I do go out and engage with people & that I don't isolate myself.
It's really hard. And I've really come to know that some people are truly good friends that accept me and are helpful in negotiating this balancing act with honesty, and some aren't. And that friendships change, and the ones worth expending emotional energy on are the ones who will meet you halfway, and that IT IS OK to accept that you need to downgrade relationships when they and you have changed.
It doesn't FEEL great, and it's ok to mourn that, but it's your right to feel supported and to take care of yourself, because the way you feel is important and valid, and saying "No" EVEN IF YOU DON'T HAVE AN EXTERIOR REASON BEYOND I TRULY CANNOT DEAL is OK. Just "I can't" is reason enough in and of itself, and it's ok to loosen or break ties with people who can't support this, and (oh, this sounds so twee, but I do mean it) the facets of your healing journey.
sj - Jun 10, 2017 6:34:25 am PDT #510 of 8185
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Strix, tons of ~ma for you and yours. I'm so sorry.
Sending TCG with ltc to get her haircut while I stay home and take a bath in a quiet house is quite possibly the best idea I have ever had.
quester - Jun 10, 2017 12:37:03 pm PDT #511 of 8185
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.
Strix, I am so sorry for what you and your husband are going through!
Steph, what Strix said about being an introvert is so true. as much as I crave contact, I get really stressed about social situations. I have to take anti-anxiety meds when doing stuff with family.
sj, excellent plan!
Beverly - Jun 10, 2017 1:18:07 pm PDT #512 of 8185
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
H has been in NC dealing with family for two weeks, and will probably be there until end of August, early September.
I have missed him, of course, and felt sort of rudderless for a day or so, but actually, it's been quite restful. I've given myself permission to sleep in, to nap, to *not* do the expected things just so the Other Human isn't alarmed by schedule deviation. I find I'm both eating and sleeping, voluntarily, on a schedule which pretty much resembles the usual. I have a couple of ongoing household projects which I'm not pushing to get done, rather taking my time, enjoying thinking it through, taking a posting pictures of the progress to H.
He's got it much worse, in dealing with family stuff, and he misses me. I'm finding it, as I said, restful, without the goad of expectation.
Best to each of you who's wrangling with issues large and small. Coping and strength and courage to all who need them.