Mal ,'Out Of Gas'
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Ugh, Steph. The boundaries you're setting on this sound good.
I went out and did most of the errands I needed to do -- went to pharmacy, went grocery shopping. Bought some dill pickle flavor potato chips, because those are stress food for me. Though, now that I think about it, since one of the possibilities for what's wrong with me is bleeding ulcer, maybe that's not such a good idea. But my doctor didn't tell me any restrictions on what I could eat.
Stupid cholesterol is still stupid. Back to the diet drawing board. Went from 272 to 247, but need to do better.
Steph, I'm sorry you're dealing with this chaos vortex. I lived with chaos people for way too long and you're right to put solid boundaries in place *now* - you don't want them to get a toehold in your life. They'll bring the chaos, and you can't make them get better. Clear and immediate communication with Tim is paramount, if he lets them in you won't likely be able to get them out. I think your therapist is right on with her advice. The next time the GF shows up, don't let her come in. Think of them like they're vampires. It sounds mean, but I swear, chaos people will drag your life into chaos too. Even though they're not doing it maliciously, the chaos is normal to them, they don't understand how destructive it is.
And I think I've lost the plot - if not!son is not Tim's son, why is Tim even involved in this?
And I think I've lost the plot - if not!son is not Tim's son, why is Tim even involved in this?
Not!son is the son of Tim's ex. Tim and ex-GF lived together for 4 or 5 years, and not!son didn't live with them full time, but part of the time. And not!son has no relationship with his biological father, but he and Tim developed a close relationship. He's told Tim more than once that he's the closest thing he has to a dad. And he and Tim maintained a good relationship after Tim and ex-GF broke up.
So Tim feels a...not exactly a parental responsibility, per se. Just more that he *wants* to help not!son when he needs it. (I don't know, I guess that's kind of parental.) Which I generally support. Except in the last year, not!son has hit the point where normal types of help aren't doing him any good. It was just enabling him.
And believe me, Tim and I have had serious conversations about this entire situation. I don't object to Tim helping out not!son as long as it doesn't affect our life together in a negative manner.
Best of luck to all of you, Steph. Tim is a good person. And you're a good person too, don't think you aren't.
In order to get my shiny new carpet, I have to move all the "small stuff" out of both bedrooms and off the closet floors. Since I don't think I can manage taking it down the stairs, I'm mentally playing Tetris getting all that stuff into the small bathroom and up on the highest shelves of the closets.
And while I think about it, I'm gonna order Chinese delivery and sit on the couch and watch YouTube videos all day. That'll be productive.
Oh, and it's freaking raining again. I wouldn't mind if the rain cooled things down, but it's still swamp weather out there.
Steph, did you order/receive that WW bathing suit from Torrid? I totally jumped on it when you posted it on here and it just arrived and I loooooooooove it.
I didn't order it in time and then my size sold out super quick. I periodically re-check in case they get it back in stock. I bet it looks great on you!
Aw, bummer!
Yeah, I'm really psyched, it fits great, and this is the first time in a long time I've bought a swimsuit that I actually wanted to, rather than needing to.
Steph did you use some dads of yoga for inflexible people at one point?
I vaguely remember some Buffista discussing it at one point and couldn't remember .
I'm looking for something for inflexible yoga beginners because I am so inflexible and I need to do something before it gets worse.
I did, and it's literally named "Yoga For Inflexible People."
I just googled, and it looks like there's a 34-minute yoga program on YouTube also titled "Yoga For Inflexible People."
There's a yoga DVD called "PM Yoga for Beginners" with Patricia Walden (it's probably on YouTube, too) that's pretty easy for inflexible people, though it does require some yoga props like a block and a strap (though for the strap you can totally use a bathrobe sash or something).