And I think I've lost the plot - if not!son is not Tim's son, why is Tim even involved in this?

Not!son is the son of Tim's ex. Tim and ex-GF lived together for 4 or 5 years, and not!son didn't live with them full time, but part of the time. And not!son has no relationship with his biological father, but he and Tim developed a close relationship. He's told Tim more than once that he's the closest thing he has to a dad. And he and Tim maintained a good relationship after Tim and ex-GF broke up.

So Tim feels a...not exactly a parental responsibility, per se. Just more that he *wants* to help not!son when he needs it. (I don't know, I guess that's kind of parental.) Which I generally support. Except in the last year, not!son has hit the point where normal types of help aren't doing him any good. It was just enabling him.

And believe me, Tim and I have had serious conversations about this entire situation. I don't object to Tim helping out not!son as long as it doesn't affect our life together in a negative manner.

Best of luck to all of you, Steph. Tim is a good person. And you're a good person too, don't think you aren't.

In order to get my shiny new carpet, I have to move all the "small stuff" out of both bedrooms and off the closet floors. Since I don't think I can manage taking it down the stairs, I'm mentally playing Tetris getting all that stuff into the small bathroom and up on the highest shelves of the closets.

And while I think about it, I'm gonna order Chinese delivery and sit on the couch and watch YouTube videos all day. That'll be productive.

Oh, and it's freaking raining again. I wouldn't mind if the rain cooled things down, but it's still swamp weather out there.

Steph, did you order/receive that WW bathing suit from Torrid? I totally jumped on it when you posted it on here and it just arrived and I loooooooooove it.

I didn't order it in time and then my size sold out super quick. I periodically re-check in case they get it back in stock. I bet it looks great on you!

Aw, bummer!

Yeah, I'm really psyched, it fits great, and this is the first time in a long time I've bought a swimsuit that I actually wanted to, rather than needing to.

Steph did you use some dads of yoga for inflexible people at one point?

I vaguely remember some Buffista discussing it at one point and couldn't remember .

I'm looking for something for inflexible yoga beginners because I am so inflexible and I need to do something before it gets worse.

I did, and it's literally named "Yoga For Inflexible People."

I just googled, and it looks like there's a 34-minute yoga program on YouTube also titled "Yoga For Inflexible People."

There's a yoga DVD called "PM Yoga for Beginners" with Patricia Walden (it's probably on YouTube, too) that's pretty easy for inflexible people, though it does require some yoga props like a block and a strap (though for the strap you can totally use a bathrobe sash or something).

I'll be checking out those videos. I barely could walk yesterday, although I did swim for an hour because that doesn't hurt anything. I think I need to work on stretchy stuff to keep from hurting myself.

The past few months doing the OrangeTheory classes often leaves me with that nice gentle sore muscles feeling, but yesterday was not nice at all! Friday, as usual there were about 8 different activities over the hour, but one of them that was repeated somewhere around 6 times was something called dumbbell bench squats. It was a set of ten and I don't know if I ended up doing 50. 60 or 70 because the routine was rower, bench squats, v leg lift things, pushups, treadmill, rower, bench squats, other stuff I can't remember, repeat a bunch of times. Every round included the 10 bench squats. I felt fine when I left class, but yesterday each and every time I had to go from sitting to standing or reverse was torture. Today is much better, but ouch ouch ouch. Coach Mallory is going to hear about this Monday when I see her again.

Steph thanks. There were a couple of different dvds and I was trying to figure out best one.

I'm trying to be helpful on a Facebook group for people using DNA tests to try to find their birth parents or other unknown relatives (usually either adoptees looking for birth parents, or people who know who their mother is but they're looking for their biological father.) I'm kind of amazed at how many times I'm hearing the story, "I took a DNA test just for fun, and it showed me that I'm 50% (or 25%) Jewish, and no one in my family is Jewish. Finally the family gossip told me that my mom (or grandma) had an affair with a Jewish doctor." It's always a doctor. I think I've talked to five different people in the past couple days who are descended from unknown Jewish doctors, and not one unknown Jewish father who had any other profession.

I'm also discovering just how difficult it is to write coherent sentences describing the different possibilities for how two people could be related.