It sounds like an example of the kind of bad decision-making that's led him to the point where he is right now in his life.

Exactly. I try to be a kind, non-judgmental person, but when I hear about folks like not!son, who refuse to learn from prior mistakes and expect everyone else to save them, I get angry. (I have someone not quite as bad/feckless, but close, in my life. I can't sever ties without fallout everywhere AND putting my Dad in a very uncomfortable situation.)

I am now seething and editing (and browsing the interwebs) in the bedroom.

Seethe! Seethe! You should absolutely seethe! (Also, I like saying seethe.)

Jeez, Tep, you've been way more patient with this guy than I would be.

He's got like a dozen red flags that I wouldn't let anywhere near the orbit of my home. He's a full-on chaos generator with seemingly poor impulse control.

Do not let Mister Beggar Wants To Choose Comfort colonize your couch. He'll be like bedbugs, hard to get rid of.

I've protected my couch from freeloaders a few times. They were mad at me. I didn't care. People like that are not friends worth having. Take your drama to your mama, and if you have burned that bridge... You really stink at being human.

Seriously, this guy needs to go away and not return. He should not be welcome at your home.

'Cuz all he's going to do is bring his fucked up shit into your life.

Ugh, Teppy. You're not wrong in any way, nor are you cruel. I'm sorry this is so fraught.

I get anxiety but sometimes it has to be dealt with head on.

I thought I would as having a good day at work until I discovered I did something wrong and did it wrong last week. No one told me until today and because it's busy there was no one to help me figure out what I did wrong. I'm going to try and figure it out tomorrow but I'm not sure I'll have anyone to ask. I think the person in shows leaves when I get in and this is a shoe department specific thing.

I'm worried they won't keep me on after Christmas. Probably worried too much but if I can't make this work I'm not sure what I can do.

I'm pmsing and I keep getting super hot at work. Its warm for mist people but I end up red faced and sweating and no one else is having that issue. I have no idea how to handle that.

I'm sorry, Tep. Good effort on your part, but being done sounds like the right call at this point.

He cries when he talks about how he's "banned" from seeing his daughters by GF's mother, and frankly, all I can think is, well, you have fucked up your entire life and don't take any responsibility for that AND you don't take any opportunities to turn things around. I'm sure it's sad that you can't see your girls, but whose fault is that?

Everything is someone else's fault. It's ridiculous.

Anyway, he's off the couch and after working with Tim today he's getting his car out of the driveway and going...somewhere. I don't care where. If he decides he wants to sleep indoors since it's November and will be in the 30s at night, he knows where the homeless shelter that I found yesterday is. That's it. I wash my hands of him.

Everything is someone else's fault. It's ridiculous.

100% this is my son. He has lost every single job he ever had in a short amount of time. Wrecked or lost 4 cars. The list goes on. Takes zero responsibility for any of it. Zero. His loss of his last car and living space were the last straw for me. He can couch surf or go to a shelter.

I do not mean to make it about me!! It is just that lack of taking responsibility for your life when you are an adult that makes me nuts. #1 is 25 and I sincerely hope he figures it out before he is 38!