I think it's because he's always looking at himself in the mirror of what he (hopes he) looks like to other people
Death is your art. You make it with your hands day after day. That final gasp, that look of peace. And part of you is desperate to know: What's it like? Where does it lead you? And now you see, that's the secret. Not the punch you didn't throw or the kicks you didn't land. She really wanted it. Every Slayer has a death wish. Even you.
Spike ,'Conversations with Dead People'
ita's thread
A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.
Burrell - Oct 17, 2016 5:47:16 pm PDT #2646 of 3156
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
smonster - Oct 17, 2016 5:47:21 pm PDT #2647 of 3156
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
No, it persisted for a while. I get memories that pop up that way.
eta that was in reply to Hil
Allyson - Oct 17, 2016 6:12:57 pm PDT #2648 of 3156
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
I'm not more intuitive than anyone else, I'm just quick to judge and can be pretty mean.
DXMachina - Oct 17, 2016 6:14:29 pm PDT #2649 of 3156
You always do this. We get tipsy, and you take advantage of my love of the scientific method.
This whole incident, ironically, makes me appreciate ita's abilities, and the fact that sometimes? She kind of smacked me back about sloppy thinking or whatever, but she did it without making me feel small.
This. When ita and I would occasionally argue about board stuff, very much not seeing eye to eye, but never with any animus in the arguments. She was so great at defusing what could be tense situations, and as Erica notes, without making one feel bad about the process.
Kat - Oct 17, 2016 6:25:33 pm PDT #2650 of 3156
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
It is terrible that really I just want to be done thinking about him? For now anyway
I'm in the same boat, Burrell. Like ban the jackanape and let's pretend he doesn't exist.
Maria - Oct 17, 2016 7:20:22 pm PDT #2651 of 3156
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
I'm getting angrier about the whole thing the more I think about it. How many people fucking took the time to clue him in, and he wants to use one of the single defining moments in our history to further his career? I want ita and Ginger back so they can both tell him to stick it where the sun don't shine.
hippocampus - Oct 17, 2016 11:42:52 pm PDT #2652 of 3156
not your mom's socks.
Reading it all laid out in text, it feels a bit stalkery? The validation and the whole camera focus in particular.
I remember seeing this pop up at the time and the reaction to it, which was overwhelming support for him and his loss.
Laga - Oct 18, 2016 2:35:09 am PDT #2653 of 3156
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
It's weird because I had very similar feelings for ita. When I saw her at the PixDesigns wedding I was too scared to go up and introduce myself. So that piece didn't ping me when I first read it but it does now.
Laura - Oct 18, 2016 3:46:40 am PDT #2654 of 3156
Our wings are not tired.
She was so great at defusing what could be tense situations, and as Erica notes, without making one feel bad about the process.
My interactions with ita both on the board and in person were always gentle and laid back. The first time she jumped on me challenging me on some off hand statement I made in a post, it terrified me, but made me think before I hit post in the future. I miss her. A lot.
Aims - Oct 18, 2016 4:03:46 am PDT #2655 of 3156
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Dude, I *still* feel the ita-wrath of quite a few of my idiot comments and opinions from back in the day that she called me out on. It makes me smile when I do.