This whole incident, ironically, makes me appreciate ita's abilities, and the fact that sometimes? She kind of smacked me back about sloppy thinking or whatever, but she did it without making me feel small.

This. When ita and I would occasionally argue about board stuff, very much not seeing eye to eye, but never with any animus in the arguments. She was so great at defusing what could be tense situations, and as Erica notes, without making one feel bad about the process.

It is terrible that really I just want to be done thinking about him? For now anyway

I'm in the same boat, Burrell. Like ban the jackanape and let's pretend he doesn't exist.

I'm getting angrier about the whole thing the more I think about it. How many people fucking took the time to clue him in, and he wants to use one of the single defining moments in our history to further his career? I want ita and Ginger back so they can both tell him to stick it where the sun don't shine.

Reading it all laid out in text, it feels a bit stalkery? The validation and the whole camera focus in particular.

I remember seeing this pop up at the time and the reaction to it, which was overwhelming support for him and his loss.

It's weird because I had very similar feelings for ita. When I saw her at the PixDesigns wedding I was too scared to go up and introduce myself. So that piece didn't ping me when I first read it but it does now.

She was so great at defusing what could be tense situations, and as Erica notes, without making one feel bad about the process.

My interactions with ita both on the board and in person were always gentle and laid back. The first time she jumped on me challenging me on some off hand statement I made in a post, it terrified me, but made me think before I hit post in the future. I miss her. A lot.

Dude, I *still* feel the ita-wrath of quite a few of my idiot comments and opinions from back in the day that she called me out on. It makes me smile when I do.

When I think of ita, I remember dancing with her at Girlbar and her doing security at Allyson's LA event. It was pre-illness and she was so strong and healthy and ass-kickingly cool (duh). My heart aches that she is gone.

She really had a way of expressing "are you sure you've thought that opinion all the way through?" in a manner that made you rethink without diminishing you. I admired that very much.

Also, been catching up in this thread and gargled coffee at "hoo-ha leech babies!" I'm pretty untrusting about clicking on links. Maybe I should live a little.

She really had a way of expressing "are you sure you've thought that opinion all the way through?" in a manner that made you rethink without diminishing you. I admired that very much.

Lord, yes. Even when I was annoyed because I just wanted to vent and not think about something critically. Which, of course, was when I needed to be checked.