Reading it all laid out in text, it feels a bit stalkery? The validation and the whole camera focus in particular.
I remember seeing this pop up at the time and the reaction to it, which was overwhelming support for him and his loss.
See, in my fantasy, when I'm kissing you... you're kissing me. It's okay. I can wait.
Oz ,'First Date'
ita's thread
A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.
hippocampus - Oct 17, 2016 11:42:52 pm PDT #2652 of 3156
not your mom's socks.
Laga - Oct 18, 2016 2:35:09 am PDT #2653 of 3156
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
It's weird because I had very similar feelings for ita. When I saw her at the PixDesigns wedding I was too scared to go up and introduce myself. So that piece didn't ping me when I first read it but it does now.
Laura - Oct 18, 2016 3:46:40 am PDT #2654 of 3156
Our wings are not tired.
She was so great at defusing what could be tense situations, and as Erica notes, without making one feel bad about the process.
My interactions with ita both on the board and in person were always gentle and laid back. The first time she jumped on me challenging me on some off hand statement I made in a post, it terrified me, but made me think before I hit post in the future. I miss her. A lot.
Aims - Oct 18, 2016 4:03:46 am PDT #2655 of 3156
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Dude, I *still* feel the ita-wrath of quite a few of my idiot comments and opinions from back in the day that she called me out on. It makes me smile when I do.
Glamcookie - Oct 18, 2016 5:44:08 am PDT #2656 of 3156
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
When I think of ita, I remember dancing with her at Girlbar and her doing security at Allyson's LA event. It was pre-illness and she was so strong and healthy and ass-kickingly cool (duh). My heart aches that she is gone.
JohnSweden - Oct 18, 2016 6:06:47 am PDT #2657 of 3156
I can't even.
She really had a way of expressing "are you sure you've thought that opinion all the way through?" in a manner that made you rethink without diminishing you. I admired that very much.
Also, been catching up in this thread and gargled coffee at "hoo-ha leech babies!" I'm pretty untrusting about clicking on links. Maybe I should live a little.
smonster - Oct 18, 2016 6:20:53 am PDT #2658 of 3156
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
She really had a way of expressing "are you sure you've thought that opinion all the way through?" in a manner that made you rethink without diminishing you. I admired that very much.
Lord, yes. Even when I was annoyed because I just wanted to vent and not think about something critically. Which, of course, was when I needed to be checked.
Aims - Oct 18, 2016 6:29:56 am PDT #2659 of 3156
Shit's all sorts of different now.
dancing with her at Girlbar
OMG so much fun.
Matt the Bruins fan - Oct 18, 2016 6:51:16 am PDT #2660 of 3156
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
She really had a way of expressing "are you sure you've thought that opinion all the way through?" in a manner that made you rethink without diminishing you. I admired that very much.
Amen to that. I wish I could remain that calm and reasonable when questioning what other people say. It was a gift.
P.M. Marc - Oct 18, 2016 7:31:45 am PDT #2661 of 3156
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
When I think of ita, I remember dancing with her at Girlbar and her doing security at Allyson's LA event.
I can never see Djimon Hounsou without thinking of her because of the W&H event. (Given that he's in one of the movies I rewatch most frequently, well.)