Teppy, breathe! You're marrying a wonderful guy, and you're going to have a great wedding.

Oh, I'm mostly hyperventilating about how much is left to do. (Also slightly about how my mom informed me this morning that she didn't know if they could transport all the wine they bought for the reception, because they don't know if it will fit. In their VAN. My reply was fairly snarky: "Wow, how many cases of wine did you BUY for a 50-person wedding? I can fit several cases in my backseat and several more still in my trunk, and my car is significantly smaller than your large van. How is this a real problem?")

And I need to buy shoes.

And I don't know how I'm wearing my hair.

And I don't know what the best cry-proof mascara is.

And we need to write our vows.

And ceremony.

And plan the honeymoon, Jesus Christ, we haven't even done that. I feel like it might be a November honeymoon at this point. (The plan was mid-October.)

E-mail Jilli about the mascara, that's what I did.

Are you doing your hair yourself or having someone do it? If you're having someone do it, make an appointment for a test run.

Where are you thinking you want to go on your honeymoon?

Tips for writing wedding vows: link.

Or, just tell me to shut up if this isn't helpful.

sj, I was just about to suggest the Hivemind could help with about 2/3 of Teppy's freak-out list.

Or, just tell me to shut up if this isn't helpful.

Nope, definitely helpful!

I do have an appointment for a test run for my hair, but I feel like I at least need to be able to tell her up or down, you know? (Actually, my problem is that I want to wear it down because I don't like the way I look in pictures with it up, but I'm afraid that wearing it down will be too hot.)

Where are you thinking you want to go on your honeymoon?

Northern California -- our problem is that we know where we want to go; we just haven't sat down to actually book flights, car, accomodations, etc.

Tips for writing wedding vows

I have some stuff bookmarked, but, again, our problem is that we haven't sat down to actually DO it.

And we still need to get a marriage license -- not a huge deal, but Tim has to take time off work to do it, and once again, he just needs to pick a date, take the morning off, and DO IT. (Well, we have to go together, but I have a lot of free time right now.)

Have your stylist test one up and one down do.

We finally got our vows written by taking a couple of hours, the week of the wedding, going to a coffee shop, sitting separately, and writing them. My problem was I wanted to get too much in! But also didn't want to stand up there boring people for hours. I think it worked out in the end... well we are still happily married!

I do have an appointment for a test run for my hair, but I feel like I at least need to be able to tell her up or down, you know? (Actually, my problem is that I want to wear it down because I don't like the way I look in pictures with it up, but I'm afraid that wearing it down will be too hot.)

Bring a picture of your wedding gown, tell your stylist what type of jewelery you plan on wearing, and just have her try things until you're happy.

TCG and I didn't write our vows together, we just each wrote on our own what we wanted to say.

Northern California -- our problem is that we know where we want to go; we just haven't sat down to actually book flights, car, accomodations, etc.

That sounds like fun.

Have your stylist test one up and one down do

And explain the difficulty. Your stylist may have a reccomendation that will solve the problem. Like a half-up, half-down, tendrils or ringlets deal.

Northern California -- our problem is that we know where we want to go; we just haven't sat down to actually book flights, car, accomodations, etc.

Watch you end up in San Francisco while I'm in Columbus. Heh.

HEY STEPH YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED WOOOOOOO.

I've been really surprised and a bit disappointed, that none of my recent couples have wanted to write their own vows.

I'm happy to provide, but I think it really takes something away from the moment.

I'd probably send out multiple drafts, in the hugely unlikely event, of course. "People with the blue vows, forget it. I'm working off th e buff ones now." But that is part of the reason I probably won't need them, huh?