I'd probably send out multiple drafts, in the hugely unlikely event, of course. "People with the blue vows, forget it. I'm working off th e buff ones now." But that is part of the reason I probably won't need them, huh?

Hubby and I weren't too particular about vows, we were just interested in legality. We sat down with the preacher we'd finally found and looked at their standard vows, removed the Obey part--mid '80s, that still cropped up--and called it good. I don't remember a bit of what I promised, though I do enjoy telling people that I haven't official sworn to anything since my wedding day.

Teppy, my primary wedding advice is: The wedding is one day. The marriage is a lifetime. Prioritize accordingly.

I'm not the best at gauging people's moods even in person. So if you aren't looking for practical advice, skip the rest of this post.

Try doing one thing today. Say, buy shoes.

While you're doing that, I'll ask the hivemind: What IS the best cry-proof mascara?

This new-fangled fashion of writing your own vows, I dunno, I like the traditional ones with a little bit of reconstruction for modern sensibilities and not making promises I'm not actually planning on keeping. So yeah, out with the obey bit. ETA: but I am totally down with the having and holding, and better and worse stuff.

Many times in a hospital setting Hubby will be saying things about how I shouldn't be spending so much time next to him on a gurney etc., and I'll say, "Hey, I promised, sickness and health and all that. No wiggling out of it now."

I'm with Windsparrow, pretty traditionalist on the vows.

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I remember silver & relatively low-heeled. Were there other requirements?

For dancing at the reception?

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Love Betsey Johnson. I swear I'm tempted by these myself. (Or there's the silver glittery Bear Paw boots I picked up on Zulily last week - but that's a different style choice).

I'm with Windsparrow, pretty traditionalist on the vows.

Ditto.

We wrote our own vows, and to me that was very special. I can totally understand why people would feel equally strongly about keeping (or modifying as needed) the traditional vows, too. I remember doublechecking what I wrote against the traditional vows because I wanted to be sure I didn't leave out any of the important stuff: in sickness and in health, for better and for worse, etc. There's a good reason those are in there!

Tubular mascara might be the most cry-proof, I'm thinking. Blinc makes some but I think other brands do too now.

I've created a modified version of 'better or worse' that seems pretty popular.

Since the moment flies by, I always send the couple an electronic version of the vows to keep with their certificate.

I really like those on sale shoes, epic. The best of all the rest.