Have your stylist test one up and one down do

And explain the difficulty. Your stylist may have a reccomendation that will solve the problem. Like a half-up, half-down, tendrils or ringlets deal.

Northern California -- our problem is that we know where we want to go; we just haven't sat down to actually book flights, car, accomodations, etc.

Watch you end up in San Francisco while I'm in Columbus. Heh.

HEY STEPH YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED WOOOOOOO.

I've been really surprised and a bit disappointed, that none of my recent couples have wanted to write their own vows.

I'm happy to provide, but I think it really takes something away from the moment.

I'd probably send out multiple drafts, in the hugely unlikely event, of course. "People with the blue vows, forget it. I'm working off th e buff ones now." But that is part of the reason I probably won't need them, huh?

Hubby and I weren't too particular about vows, we were just interested in legality. We sat down with the preacher we'd finally found and looked at their standard vows, removed the Obey part--mid '80s, that still cropped up--and called it good. I don't remember a bit of what I promised, though I do enjoy telling people that I haven't official sworn to anything since my wedding day.

Teppy, my primary wedding advice is: The wedding is one day. The marriage is a lifetime. Prioritize accordingly.

I'm not the best at gauging people's moods even in person. So if you aren't looking for practical advice, skip the rest of this post.

Try doing one thing today. Say, buy shoes.

While you're doing that, I'll ask the hivemind: What IS the best cry-proof mascara?

This new-fangled fashion of writing your own vows, I dunno, I like the traditional ones with a little bit of reconstruction for modern sensibilities and not making promises I'm not actually planning on keeping. So yeah, out with the obey bit. ETA: but I am totally down with the having and holding, and better and worse stuff.

Many times in a hospital setting Hubby will be saying things about how I shouldn't be spending so much time next to him on a gurney etc., and I'll say, "Hey, I promised, sickness and health and all that. No wiggling out of it now."

I'm with Windsparrow, pretty traditionalist on the vows.

Drive by to "help":

Here, I'll kick off the shoe shopping:

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I remember silver & relatively low-heeled. Were there other requirements?

For dancing at the reception?

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Love Betsey Johnson. I swear I'm tempted by these myself. (Or there's the silver glittery Bear Paw boots I picked up on Zulily last week - but that's a different style choice).

I'm with Windsparrow, pretty traditionalist on the vows.

Ditto.