Xander ,'Empty Places'
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
I still can't go down into the basement. I'm sleeping on the couch with the light and the tv on. He has so much crap everywhere I'm paralyzed by the thought of having to go through it.
I look at the amount of stuff Hubby has, his gaming stuff and his SCA stuff, and I can't imaging if I had to deal with it on my own. So much sympathy.
Gah. I've somehow ended up in the "how to negotiate an interfaith relationship" conversation with a guy on OK Cupid that I've just been chatting with for about a week. I guess it's good to figure this stuff out before getting in too deep, but still, it's making me want to run around in circles and flail my hands and it's scary.
And, from the helper perspective, it's soothing to have something practical and useful to do when someone you love is grieving, and all you want to do is make something better somehow.
Absolutely.
And if you need to walk down to a nearby river and throw his shoes into it while yelling profanities, it won't hurt a thing.
That is an oddly specific piece of advice...
Speaking of help... I'm writing a letter of reference for a dear friend, one of my students from Peace Corps. Would anyone be willing to beta sometime in the next few days? I'm planning to have a first draft no later than Saturday (maybe as early as tonight) and it's due Monday, so I want to submit Sunday.
Aims, I'm glad it went well. And yes, what's it about the tiny feet?
I just spent a lot of time looking at the floor. Mostly it was an aside.
DBT, huh? I should look that up.
{{{Maria}}} Echoing what everyone else has said - you do not have to do this alone. It is overwhelming and raw and painful. Please get some help and make sure the things you do are in smallish chunks and not a lot all at once, ok? Love you, bella.
Just got home. Opened the mail. He's late on his car. Letter dated 2/21. I. Cannot. Deal.
{{{Maria}}}
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy - quickie slide show - [link]
It did wonders for me, and my sister, and vw bug, and... some other Buffistas, I think? It gave me the "how" for all those bits of good advice I couldn't follow, and let me practice them in a focused and safe way.
Ack, x-post with Maria.
{{{{{Maria}}}}}
Maria, have someone call them and explain that the estate isn't settled. I'll do it for you if you want. They will wait. As will any other creditors.