Speaking of help... I'm writing a letter of reference for a dear friend, one of my students from Peace Corps. Would anyone be willing to beta sometime in the next few days? I'm planning to have a first draft no later than Saturday (maybe as early as tonight) and it's due Monday, so I want to submit Sunday.
Note to self: religion freaky.
Buffy ,'Never Leave Me'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
smonster - Feb 23, 2012 2:32:43 pm PST #8319 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Aims - Feb 23, 2012 2:35:34 pm PST #8320 of 30001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Aims, I'm glad it went well. And yes, what's it about the tiny feet?
I just spent a lot of time looking at the floor. Mostly it was an aside.
DBT, huh? I should look that up.
{{{Maria}}} Echoing what everyone else has said - you do not have to do this alone. It is overwhelming and raw and painful. Please get some help and make sure the things you do are in smallish chunks and not a lot all at once, ok? Love you, bella.
Maria - Feb 23, 2012 2:42:47 pm PST #8321 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Just got home. Opened the mail. He's late on his car. Letter dated 2/21. I. Cannot. Deal.
Hil R. - Feb 23, 2012 2:45:18 pm PST #8322 of 30001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
{{{Maria}}}
smonster - Feb 23, 2012 2:45:34 pm PST #8323 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy - quickie slide show - [link]
It did wonders for me, and my sister, and vw bug, and... some other Buffistas, I think? It gave me the "how" for all those bits of good advice I couldn't follow, and let me practice them in a focused and safe way.
Ack, x-post with Maria.
sj - Feb 23, 2012 2:49:16 pm PST #8324 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
{{{{{Maria}}}}}
-t - Feb 23, 2012 2:51:02 pm PST #8325 of 30001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Maria, have someone call them and explain that the estate isn't settled. I'll do it for you if you want. They will wait. As will any other creditors.
Atropa - Feb 23, 2012 3:12:40 pm PST #8326 of 30001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
They will wait. As will any other creditors.
Yes, they will.
And ... my memory is fuzzy, but IIRC there's a paperwork thing you can do with regard to creditors. Something about getting one document notarized with a public statement of date of death, and the creditors have "x" number of days to request being paid? I vaguely remember Dad mentioning this while dealing with the chaos of Mom's creditors we didn't know about.
Atropa - Feb 23, 2012 3:15:23 pm PST #8327 of 30001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Ah-ha: [link]
The most critical question in whether the living still bear responsibility for a dead person's debt is: Was the account individual, or shared? If a spouse, family member, or business partner signed the card application as a co-signer (joint account holder), then that person will be held liable for the balance on that card, along with (or instead of) the estate.
If that second cardholder is merely an authorized user (didn't sign the application, isn't liable for bills and merely has charging privileges), then he or she isn't responsible.
(And Maria, let me know if you don't want me to post this sort of info, and I'll stop. I'm just trying to find info for you, but I don't want to upset you.)
-t - Feb 23, 2012 3:16:47 pm PST #8328 of 30001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
There is a thing. I didn't do it but my MiL did when FiL died, as advised by her lawyer, but I don't know what it's called.