{{{Maria}}}
Flames wouldn't be eternal if they actually consumed anything.
Lilah ,'Not Fade Away'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Hil R. - Feb 23, 2012 2:45:18 pm PST #8322 of 30001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
smonster - Feb 23, 2012 2:45:34 pm PST #8323 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy - quickie slide show - [link]
It did wonders for me, and my sister, and vw bug, and... some other Buffistas, I think? It gave me the "how" for all those bits of good advice I couldn't follow, and let me practice them in a focused and safe way.
Ack, x-post with Maria.
sj - Feb 23, 2012 2:49:16 pm PST #8324 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
{{{{{Maria}}}}}
-t - Feb 23, 2012 2:51:02 pm PST #8325 of 30001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Maria, have someone call them and explain that the estate isn't settled. I'll do it for you if you want. They will wait. As will any other creditors.
Atropa - Feb 23, 2012 3:12:40 pm PST #8326 of 30001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
They will wait. As will any other creditors.
Yes, they will.
And ... my memory is fuzzy, but IIRC there's a paperwork thing you can do with regard to creditors. Something about getting one document notarized with a public statement of date of death, and the creditors have "x" number of days to request being paid? I vaguely remember Dad mentioning this while dealing with the chaos of Mom's creditors we didn't know about.
Atropa - Feb 23, 2012 3:15:23 pm PST #8327 of 30001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Ah-ha: [link]
The most critical question in whether the living still bear responsibility for a dead person's debt is: Was the account individual, or shared? If a spouse, family member, or business partner signed the card application as a co-signer (joint account holder), then that person will be held liable for the balance on that card, along with (or instead of) the estate.
If that second cardholder is merely an authorized user (didn't sign the application, isn't liable for bills and merely has charging privileges), then he or she isn't responsible.
(And Maria, let me know if you don't want me to post this sort of info, and I'll stop. I'm just trying to find info for you, but I don't want to upset you.)
-t - Feb 23, 2012 3:16:47 pm PST #8328 of 30001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
There is a thing. I didn't do it but my MiL did when FiL died, as advised by her lawyer, but I don't know what it's called.
JZ - Feb 23, 2012 3:17:20 pm PST #8329 of 30001
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
{{{{{Maria}}}}}
And, yes, tell them to wait, or outsource the telling; there are so many people who want to do anything they can to help.
Maria - Feb 23, 2012 3:19:00 pm PST #8330 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
It helps. It hurts, but it helps.
lisah - Feb 23, 2012 3:26:34 pm PST #8331 of 30001
Punishingly Intricate
Aims, I'm so glad you are off to a good start with your therapist. She sounds pretty great so far.
Ginger, I really hope that the blood test results are a whole lot of nothing.
Maria, I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. So much. Please let me know if there's anything I can do. I'm really good at making calls. For real.