Mal ,'Our Mrs. Reynolds'
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Aims, I'm glad it went well. And yes, what's it about the tiny feet?
I just spent a lot of time looking at the floor. Mostly it was an aside.
DBT, huh? I should look that up.
{{{Maria}}} Echoing what everyone else has said - you do not have to do this alone. It is overwhelming and raw and painful. Please get some help and make sure the things you do are in smallish chunks and not a lot all at once, ok? Love you, bella.
Just got home. Opened the mail. He's late on his car. Letter dated 2/21. I. Cannot. Deal.
{{{Maria}}}
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy - quickie slide show - [link]
It did wonders for me, and my sister, and vw bug, and... some other Buffistas, I think? It gave me the "how" for all those bits of good advice I couldn't follow, and let me practice them in a focused and safe way.
Ack, x-post with Maria.
{{{{{Maria}}}}}
Maria, have someone call them and explain that the estate isn't settled. I'll do it for you if you want. They will wait. As will any other creditors.
They will wait. As will any other creditors.
Yes, they will.
And ... my memory is fuzzy, but IIRC there's a paperwork thing you can do with regard to creditors. Something about getting one document notarized with a public statement of date of death, and the creditors have "x" number of days to request being paid? I vaguely remember Dad mentioning this while dealing with the chaos of Mom's creditors we didn't know about.
Ah-ha: [link]
The most critical question in whether the living still bear responsibility for a dead person's debt is: Was the account individual, or shared? If a spouse, family member, or business partner signed the card application as a co-signer (joint account holder), then that person will be held liable for the balance on that card, along with (or instead of) the estate.
If that second cardholder is merely an authorized user (didn't sign the application, isn't liable for bills and merely has charging privileges), then he or she isn't responsible.
(And Maria, let me know if you don't want me to post this sort of info, and I'll stop. I'm just trying to find info for you, but I don't want to upset you.)
There is a thing. I didn't do it but my MiL did when FiL died, as advised by her lawyer, but I don't know what it's called.
{{{{{Maria}}}}}
And, yes, tell them to wait, or outsource the telling; there are so many people who want to do anything they can to help.