It's Friday night, you can definitely fall apart now. As long as you can pull it back together enough in 48 hours. I can't imagine just holding it in indefinitely will work.
Oh, friend. I just don't even know.
You're not gonna jokey-rhyme your way out of this one.
Willow ,'Sleeper'
Natter 68: Bork Bork Bork
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Jesse - Sep 09, 2011 4:39:34 pm PDT #25228 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
JZ - Sep 09, 2011 4:40:34 pm PDT #25229 of 30001
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
Oh, Maria. I just caught up. I'm so sorry, and it's so brutally fucking unjust.
meara - Sep 09, 2011 4:40:35 pm PDT #25230 of 30001
Aw fuck Maria. That's awful. I wish I had magic powers.
sarameg - Sep 09, 2011 4:43:31 pm PDT #25231 of 30001
But if you have to go lock yourself in a closet and have a good cry, or go break some dishes or just scream at the sky, don't begrudge yourself that.
Where is he seeing docs? I don't mean to put her on the spot, but lisah's got resources at JHU, and they helped steer her & Bob with second opinions and all. When you are ready to deal with that.
If you do end up coming to B'more for any of this, please know you both can use me as a place to crash. My parents will be here for a week in late October, but even then, there are enough beds.
askye - Sep 09, 2011 4:50:49 pm PDT #25232 of 30001
Thrive to spite them
Maria, I'm so sorry!
amyth - Sep 09, 2011 4:51:12 pm PDT #25233 of 30001
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen
And if, for any reason, you find yourself wanting to come for second or third opinions or anything at UNC or Duke, you are more than welcome to stay in my guest room.
amych - Sep 09, 2011 4:51:30 pm PDT #25234 of 30001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
Damn it, {{{{{Maria}}}}}
Sue - Sep 09, 2011 4:51:54 pm PDT #25235 of 30001
hip deep in pie
I am so sorry, Maria. I wish I could do more than send you my love. If there's anything, let me know.
Jesse - Sep 09, 2011 4:52:53 pm PDT #25236 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
I don't have a guest room, but I know a lot of people who know a lot about cancer doctors in Boston.
Maria - Sep 09, 2011 4:56:34 pm PDT #25237 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
This is the worst possible weekend ever to fall apart. I can't fall apart with him here--no fucking way I'm adding to his stress--and I must go to PA at some point this weekend. Not only do we have a 40-year flood to deal with, we still haven't told my father that DH has cancer. Now my hand is forced, and I can't be a mess when I do that. This is going to destroy him. His brother and his son-in-law both diagnosed with cancer in the span of 9 months.
Perkins, I may need to ask you and Ginger lots of questions about dealing with this. Please tell me when I overstep my bounds.
sara, right now he's going back to see the surgeon. He needs to get set up with an oncologist. Washington Hospital Center has a melanoma center, but JHU is always a possibility. That's actually where his dad's doctor's appointment is on Monday. They saved his life by discovering and treating his bladder cancer.
Ugh, I am not the first spouse on this board to go through this. Why am I taking over the place with my drama?
(I am more fragile than spun glass right now. One more hit and I will shatter. I don't like this.)