I'm so sorry, Maria. I've looked into the abyss and I'd like to help if I can.
Congratulations to the class of 1999. You all proved more or less adequate.
Snyder ,'Chosen'
Natter 68: Bork Bork Bork
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Ginger - Sep 09, 2011 4:28:22 pm PDT #25218 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
Hil R. - Sep 09, 2011 4:28:33 pm PDT #25219 of 30001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
I don't have much else to offer, but if you need an extra hand with restaurant cleanup once the water recedes, I'll be there.
Maria - Sep 09, 2011 4:29:20 pm PDT #25220 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
He had a 95% chance of being in the fucking clear. We all told him to focus on that. Now it's 100x as hard because he had hope. And he's in the goddamned 5% that's not lucky.
I'm scared. For both of us. What the hell did we ever do to deserve this?
Dana - Sep 09, 2011 4:30:39 pm PDT #25221 of 30001
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
I'm so sorry, Maria. I don't know what to say.
Jesse - Sep 09, 2011 4:31:01 pm PDT #25222 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Nothing. That I can guarantee you. All kinds of shit -- good and bad -- happens to people who don't deserve it.
sarameg - Sep 09, 2011 4:33:18 pm PDT #25223 of 30001
Nothing at all. Shit just happens.
And yeah, hope can be a nasty bitch. But it is still there. Just requires recalibrating your frame of reference, but takes time to mourn the previous expectations. Let yourself, and him, do that. And you know what? It's ok to fall apart for a while.
Maria - Sep 09, 2011 4:33:28 pm PDT #25224 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Absolutely, Ginger. I cannot have the abyss looking into me without help. He's in the anger stage right now, and I don't know where he's really at. It's been a lot of talk that an early death is a foregone conclusion, and I can't counter that right now.
Maria - Sep 09, 2011 4:35:35 pm PDT #25225 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
I can't fall apart now. I have a new job to keep. I won't even be able to go with him to the doctor's appointment on Monday. I'm making my sister come down, because his parents can't even go. His father has his own doctor's appointment.
Amy - Sep 09, 2011 4:35:48 pm PDT #25226 of 30001
Because books.
Oh, Maria, that's so hard. I think you might just have to let him be angry for a while.
Please PLEASE let us know what we can do to help.
Lee - Sep 09, 2011 4:39:25 pm PDT #25227 of 30001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.
Oh Maria, I am so very very sorry, and what everyone else said, especially the fuck cancer, and that he and you did absolutely nothing to deserve this.