I don't have a guest room, but I know a lot of people who know a lot about cancer doctors in Boston.
Angel: Is that what you think you are--a hero? Spike: Saved the world didn't I? Angel: Once. Talk to me after you've done it a couple more times.
'Destiny'
Natter 68: Bork Bork Bork
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Jesse - Sep 09, 2011 4:52:53 pm PDT #25236 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Maria - Sep 09, 2011 4:56:34 pm PDT #25237 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
This is the worst possible weekend ever to fall apart. I can't fall apart with him here--no fucking way I'm adding to his stress--and I must go to PA at some point this weekend. Not only do we have a 40-year flood to deal with, we still haven't told my father that DH has cancer. Now my hand is forced, and I can't be a mess when I do that. This is going to destroy him. His brother and his son-in-law both diagnosed with cancer in the span of 9 months.
Perkins, I may need to ask you and Ginger lots of questions about dealing with this. Please tell me when I overstep my bounds.
sara, right now he's going back to see the surgeon. He needs to get set up with an oncologist. Washington Hospital Center has a melanoma center, but JHU is always a possibility. That's actually where his dad's doctor's appointment is on Monday. They saved his life by discovering and treating his bladder cancer.
Ugh, I am not the first spouse on this board to go through this. Why am I taking over the place with my drama?
(I am more fragile than spun glass right now. One more hit and I will shatter. I don't like this.)
P.M. Marc - Sep 09, 2011 4:56:53 pm PDT #25238 of 30001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Maria, whatever I can do, please let me know.
Maria - Sep 09, 2011 4:59:26 pm PDT #25239 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Make it all go away, please? Make my husband healthy.
edit: That's not fair, Plei. I'm sorry.
P.M. Marc - Sep 09, 2011 5:00:29 pm PDT #25240 of 30001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Ugh, I am not the first spouse on this board to go through this. Why am I taking over the place with my drama?
Because it is a serious blow after a series of serious blows. Because just because someone else went through it, doesn't mean it's not a major, serious thing. Because that's what we're here for.
Maria, I can give you my mother's email, too. She's an RN and went through her own cancer treatment five years ago. Though she's kind of, umm. Kooky. Not in a woo-woo way, but still: kooky. Yet strangely level-headed.
P.M. Marc - Sep 09, 2011 5:01:13 pm PDT #25241 of 30001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Maria, you know if I could, I would. I hate like hell that I can't.
Liese S. - Sep 09, 2011 5:02:01 pm PDT #25242 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
Also, dude, totally. You are not taking over the board with your drama. You are doing what you're supposed to do, which is *use your support systems* -- that's us, and your family, and your other friends.
You absolutely can fall apart when you need to. You can give yourself time and space to do that. If you feel like you can't or don't want to now, that's fine, too, but you do not need to have permission to react any way you have to.
We want to be able to be here for you, and we can only do that if you let us, and that's by spewing all over the boards anything you want right now. You are allowed. We allow you.
DavidS - Sep 09, 2011 5:02:28 pm PDT #25243 of 30001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Why am I taking over the place with my drama?
You're no drama queen, missy! We all know what that looks like and it doesn't look like you.
This is the real deep shit. And you're in it. And we're here.
Don't ever excuse yourself for calling on us. It's a privilege.
smonster - Sep 09, 2011 5:02:38 pm PDT #25244 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Ugh, I am not the first spouse on this board to go through this. Why am I taking over the place with my drama?
Dude, I've inadvertently taken over Bitches with roommate drama for two days. Please don't feel bad. This is a safe place for you.
Hil R. - Sep 09, 2011 5:03:09 pm PDT #25245 of 30001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
Also, dude, totally. You are not taking over the board with your drama. You are doing what you're supposed to do, which is *use your support systems* -- that's us, and your family, and your other friends.
You absolutely can fall apart when you need to. You can give yourself time and space to do that. If you feel like you can't or don't want to now, that's fine, too, but you do not need to have permission to react any way you have to.
What Liese said.