One of the things the pet finder told my friend was that 'patience' doesn't cover it. She said that, once the dog is spotted, people will go there and wait for about 45 minutes before they give up in despair.

When my friend climbed over the fence, into the Gallaudet cemetery, (almost getting arrested) she had to wait for 3 hours before her little boo walked up enough to be caught.

The pet finder also recommends bringing another friendly dog (dogs will come to dogs much more quickly that to even their beloved humans) and super smelly food.

Hot dogs, cheese, anything highly favored.

■Vanilla is not used as a pejorative.

This half way down the list made me laugh out loud.

I get it, I do, but part of me just wants to go "and people with a coat on can assume they'll be warm." People who eat meat can assume they'll find something on the menu. People with thick hair can assume their barettes will stay in.

Pointing out unrecognized privilege is something I value and believe in. But every single thing about a person that is outside the norm is not a burning social issue, and the kind of shocking eye-opening of the unpacking process starts to get lost.

(I'm not saying that *this particular one* is one step too far. But really?)

the kind of shocking eye-opening of the unpacking process starts to get lost

Yeah, it totally does.

I wonder how many people are vanilla, and I wonder what vanilla actually means, and I wonder how many people are vanilla for no particular reason, just that they've never tried D/s or whatever.

On IO9, I was bitching about their race articles. Well, not the articles themselves, because they're pretty uniformly well written. But they really draw douches out of the woodwork. Someone replied to me with "just don't talk about race." I didn't reply "unpack your privilege, dude", but the temptation was sure there. That's right out of privilege denying dude's mouth.

Continuing Sass~ma

I have planted a peach tree in the back yard. Kind of badly, but it's a tough little tree, I think it will be okay.

Sarah Silverman Totally Made Out with a Unicorn (The One)

Done in the style of an '80s heavy metal ballad video....

I am trying to do my taxes.

Dita is trying to eat my W-2.

I am rewatching S1 of Community and then going back and watching the commentary. I should be out buying fizz or tidying before the cable guy gets here. My living room is a wreck.

I'm so sorry to come back to Natter and find that Sass is still lost. Crossing my fingers as hard as I can!

Vanilla privilege. Part of it I get, part of it is judgy and assumptive itself.

Oh, lord. I understand, really I do. People want to get their freak on and not have it be problematic. But seriously? This is a world where a woman who has "vanilla" missionary-position, woman-on-the-bottom sex with the lights off will still be slut-shamed. So I'm not really on the "no one understands the perverts' pain!" bandwagon. It's just...there doesn't seem to be anything simple about sexuality.

■Vanilla is not used as a pejorative.

This half way down the list made me laugh out loud.

Right? I kind of want to e-mail her the definition of "irony."

A vanilla person can assume their sexual partner will have approximately the same sexual desires they will

That's just willful ignorance.

A vanilla person will not have their sexual orientation called into question due to their sexual practices.

I assume she's never, EVER, met a straight man who likes being on the bottom for anal sex.

A vanilla person does not have to worry about outsiders perceiving their relationship as abusive or pathological.

Wait, seriously? Is she being deliberately obtuse, or is she just stupid?

A vanilla person will not fear their sexual practices counting against them in a divorce.

See above, re: slut-shaming and re: deliberately obtuse/stupid.

I assume she's never, EVER, met a straight man who likes being on the bottom for anal sex.

I'm sure she doesn't count straight men and anal sex as vanilla, especially if he's on the receiving end.

eta: I read more of her tumblr, and she seems to be a smug lesbian submissive who's a professional top, so I figure she figure she's untouchable when she talks about sex.