Cass! How is your birthday treating you?
I don't give a good gorram about relevant, Wash. Or objective. And I ain't so afraid of losing something that I ain't gonna try to have it. You and I would make one beautiful baby. And I want to meet that child one day. Period.
Zoe ,'Heart Of Gold'
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sj - Jun 17, 2010 1:24:25 pm PDT #22974 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Polter-Cow - Jun 17, 2010 1:31:17 pm PDT #22975 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
Would I be a dick for maintaining radio silence on Father's Day? Especially if I call other fathers in the family?
I sent my aunt an e-mail last night explaining things. She hasn't responded yet. I hope she's cool.
I just talked to my cousin since I was overdue to congratulation him on his new house whose housewarming I wasn't able to attend. This would be the cousin who's married and has a kid and a house and two cars and is therefore the very definition of success, in contrast to me. He asked me if I was coming to India in December and joked that it would be a good vacation, no pressure. But he understood that no, "no pressure" was not in my parents' vocabulary. He said I should find someone on my own, that would be better, and he would support me in that. So I'm glad he's got my back.
Cass - Jun 17, 2010 1:35:14 pm PDT #22976 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Would I be a dick for maintaining radio silence on Father's Day? Especially if I call other fathers in the family?
Honestly? Yes. It's your call to make but I think, at minimum, send a card or an email if you can't deal with the interaction of a phone call. Especially if you do call the other fathers in the family.
How is your birthday treating you?
Nicely. Mom is sending me two house elf visits and I am about to go nom me some cheese enchiladas because that's what I am craving like whoa.
sj - Jun 17, 2010 1:37:25 pm PDT #22977 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Honestly? Yes. It's your call to make but I think, at minimum, send a card or an email if you can't deal with the interaction of a phone call. Especially if you do call the other fathers in the family.
Cass is wise, and I also think that not calling might make things worse. Don't give them any ammunition to use against you.
Nora Deirdre - Jun 17, 2010 1:37:43 pm PDT #22978 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Happy birthday Cass!
Laga - Jun 17, 2010 1:38:06 pm PDT #22979 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
at minimum, send a card or an email
I was thinking gift basket.
Polter-Cow - Jun 17, 2010 1:38:40 pm PDT #22980 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
Honestly? Yes. It's your call to make but I think, at minimum, send a card or an email if you can't deal with the interaction of a phone call. Especially if you do call the other fathers in the family.
I was thinking of sending an e-mail. Because I can't call. If I call, the conversation has the potential to spiral out of control.
Mom is sending me two house elf visits and I am about to go nom me some cheese enchiladas because that's what I am craving like whoa.
Mmm, enchiladas. That's a good birthday.
Polter-Cow - Jun 17, 2010 1:55:18 pm PDT #22981 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
My dad wants me to call him at work so my mom won't be there to yell at me. They're playing Crazy Cop, Reasonable Cop again. But I still don't want to talk right now. Not at work. And I'm busy tonight. And I'm visiting friends this weekend and want to have fun and get away from everything.
This is the same thing that always happens, though. I send an e-mail, my mom flips out, my dad tries to smooth things over. Until the process starts over again. I don't know if it will make things worse not to play along like I've always done.
meara - Jun 17, 2010 2:03:13 pm PDT #22982 of 30000
P-C, can you call and wish happy fathers day when you know they'll be out of the house, and leave a message? Phone tag has an illustrious history for a reason!
Scrappy - Jun 17, 2010 2:03:53 pm PDT #22983 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
What. Cass. Said. I would definitely call him. They're the ones who are defining this as you not caring about the family. You don't have to buy into that and you can show them it's not so. You DO care, you just don't want to do this one thing in the way they want you to. I feel for your dad--he has to live with your mom's crazy all the time, and it is clear that they both love you, even if their cultural expectations are wack.